**EXCLUSIVE** I'm Not Stealing Your Men

I don’t even know where to begin on this subject. As a white female who dates men of all races, I have heard this often—“you’re stealing our men.” I’ve seen that look of disgust on some black women’s faces when they see me walking hand-in-hand with one of “their own.” But the truth is I don’t understand this whole feeling of ownership. Is a person really a traitor if they decide to date outside of their race? I am not writing this for negativity, I’m simply expressing my opinion. Not only do I NOT think interracial dating is wrong, I promote it.

After reading Jill Scott’s blog for Essence I was disappointed to hear someone with her level of success, talent and knowledge could feel this way. I understand this is a sensitive subject as most racial, religious, political and sexual conversations are. In this respect I think Jill Scott handled the subject as best as she could. It is hard to discuss this topic without someone getting offended. She made her opinion clear while making sure to explain herself as to not be misunderstood as some type of racist-which I don’t think she is.

Her point was made well enough so that someone like me, who does not agree could understand where she is coming from. The truth is I really do understand where she is coming from although I don’t agree with it. I respect her opinion as it’s expected and understandable because it’s not the first time I’ve ever come across someone who feels this way. It just makes me sad.