Russell's Blog: Dating and Race

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Note: while I was searching for a politically correct photo for this blog I found one of the beautiful model Kiara at my Diamond Empowerment event who I have known for ten years. And no, we are not dating-I'm not THAT lucky.

It seems that almost every week since I have been single there is a headline on some black internet site that says something like "Russell Simmons is FINALLY Dating a Sista?!?!?!" Surely you have seen these, its a constant in my life.

I am of the view as a philanthropist and businessman that all press is good if it can help me as a brand or bring in more money to my five charities-especially in this time of economic crisis when every charity is struggling to keep afloat.    However,  I do find this blatent racism offensive.  Just last week I was out with my friend Veronica Verikova and the next day had to read about "uncle Russell's brand new blonde bust down". She doesn't deserve that, nobody does! And yes, it is offensive.

Some people believe that if you date a person from another race you are somehow denying who you are. They believe that dating someone with a different skin color somehow  makes you a self-hater, loathing that which makes you yourself.  They believe that it's an insult to your parents,  ancestors, heritage and community.  I find this view much more telling about the people who say this than about those who do find a physical, spiritual, mental and emotional connection with someone who looks different than themselves.

Choosing someone who I am physically attracted to and who also inspires, uplifts, educates and keeps me interested is my first priority- not their race. And if these bloggers recall I did marry a woman who was half African American. Furthermore, I have had many high profile relationships with African American women,  such as the only serious relationship that I have had since my divorce (who some may already know) with my dear friend yoga teacher/model/philantropist  Porschla Coleman.

Elijah Muhammad once said that African Americans were chained  for so long that when those chains were released we refused to move. I get where these feelings are coming from but I don't condone them. That kind of collective consciousness by a group  promotes negativity in a world that has enough hatred and intolerance - and it saddens me to see these pollutants in my community.

Look, at 51 years old, if I'm still in the blogs and people are still talking about me then I'm lucky no matter what they say. I'm fortunate because as my good friend Bono says, "your cash is your cashe" and I've got five charities that need funding. The more I'm in the press the better it is for my charities, my businesses and my brand. At the end of the day, helping people is what I care the most about. So to the bloggers and commentors I say keep it up -please and thank you- but consider what I have come to know; As the Chairman of the Foundation For Ethnic Understanding I am privy to research that has shown that this generation is far less racist, sexist and homophobic than their parents were. Of course this was proven when America almost elected the first female president (Senator Clinton) and did elect the first African-American President in Obama.

As the new generation of bloggers come into their own, I have no doubt that these racist comments will become a thing of the past as we march forward into a new day.

Love is love people- all you have to do is open your heart to see G-d in everyone.

Happy Holidays and G-d bless.

-Russell Simmons

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  • Why do succesfull, rich black man prefer white woman? Would and more important could they get the same white chick if they weren't rich and famous. think of Tiger Woods, Michael Jackson, Seal, OJ Simpson, and other man. Rich and famous white man don't prefer black woman. The market worth of black woman is still low. Be ashamed black man!
  • Black women are beautiful inside and out but we are strong for a reason. We should not don't deny this but embrace it. Black men are so &^% weak and so caught up they cannot relate to a Black women anymore. They want a yes women... yes Russsell you are failing the grade. We as mothers have raised this Nation and the Black Community have evolved but we do not forget and should not forget as we move forward. Russell Simmons can eat tofu, date white women and do as much Yoga as his heart desires but he will remain a black man. Embrace it but this time.. with truth. I consider this man to be a child molester courting Kimora when she was 16. He's not a role model and I am glad Kimora left him for a real man. Most women are not gold diggers...but strong and passionate about family and won't settle for a fool. Michelle Obama.. most beautiful..Mother, Sister, Daughter and First Lady of this wonderful country and certainly not a YES women. White women..please read: Black women are ok with you dating the "black" man. Move on B*t&^..We have enough to go around.
  • Sounds good on a blog, but my intuition tells me otherwise. I’m not a racist, I’m just not naïve.
  • I would like to say race does not matter, rather if they were black, white, latino, or whatever. its not the color of the skin that brings people together..its love. there is nothin wrong with interracial relationships,





    E.B.
  • Interesting....sadly it's not surprising, but I can relate on a not so superstardom level. I believe it comes from my mother being an open minded individual; therefore I was raised that way. I was raised with enough since to know that I am a dark skinned African American female, in which I love praise honor and adore. However it didn't make me any different from any of my peers or passer Byers. I seriously have always recognized race in the order to describe what someone looked like. To speed towards my relation with your blog…I too have only looked to be around individuals or date even - those who respect me, challenge me in a positive form, learn from me, allow me to grow, and most important accept me in the same fashion I show my acceptance of them. Which has lead me to friends from all across the world such as Poland, Finland, Romania, Russia, Denmark...and this list goes on. Dating wise, I've been blessed with the opportunity to date White men, Black men, and Spanish men. All experiences I don't regret not one bit. Now the person them self may cause me to respond through a whole different blog, but to be able to know what those different men’s cultures were like was an experience I am so proud and happy about. Sadly, I've had friends judge me and explain to me that I am not white or not black enough. So sad. I've actually had a friend once tell me that I need more black friends. This is even sadder. I'm ecstatic about your words used here in this blog. And in the hopes that you Mr. Simmons wouldn't mind...I would love to copy and paste this to an email I choose to send to that same "friend".



    BTW: I am currently in love with a man who I know I will marry. This man loves me, adores me, respects me, teaches me, protects me, grows with me, and cares for my well being more than any man I've come across in my 26 years. He just happens to be White. Oh well!!!! lol

  • CAN I GET A BIG OH PLEASE. In 2004, the percentage of never-married black women was 42.3 percent compared with 22.7 percent of white women, according to the Joint Center for Political and Economic Studies in Washington.
    That's your mother, your sister, your cousin.

    Between 1950 and 2004, the percentage of never-married black women more than doubled, increasing from 20.7 to 42.3
    Never-married white women increased a mere 3 percentage points from 19.9 to 22.7.

    According to the 2000 census, black men enter interracial marriages at a higher rate -- 9.7 percent -- THAN ANY OTHER RACIAL/GENDER group except Asian women.
    In the past 8 years, that percentage has only increased. WHY IS THAT?

    If you choose to put your head in the sand in order to pursue your "preference" fine, but don't throw this BS at us so we don't look at you differently. You can't wish the sky red.
    • Adjoa MsMogul,

      God bless you honey. You are absolutely CORRECT!!!!

      And I must commend you on how you proved your point-'Facts m'am. Just the facts, please.'

      This is the same ole same ole with African-American men. I have heard this lame ass, superficial, excuse over and over. Generation after generation from them. They'll full of it. Especially the high profile. And no dares to call them out on it but African-American women who know better. And who's intelligence and wisdom and beauty isn't respected or valued. And Black men know that!!!!

      Thank You.

      We'll have our day though,whatever with the rest.

      Peace and Blessings and Love.

      Violet.
  • I totally agree with Elijah M "we refuse to remove the chains" and the crab in a barrel thinking. The world has come along way but I sometime feel our people esp where blogging is concerned and people can hide behind a screen name that as a collective the negativity spreads like cancer. The internet is a blessing and a curse as it allows way too much inside information and pictures of celebs. I liked it better when we knew less about the celebs it made them much more intriguing.

    When you are exposed enough via travel or just interest to learn about different things, different people and different cultures you expand your mind to thinking outside of the black box and you see people as people that happen to be of a different race.
  • Well russ you say a lot logical things on the topic. but people will always be people, meaning controvsative, conflicted and never embrace "difference"! remember racism is smoke sceen for classim, it really all about those dollars and sense! my motto is when you die its your tombstone with your name on it which indicates it was yours, so live like your want, date you want, have sex with who you want, in short, just be cool baby, just be cool!
  • As a Mother of two interracial "grown" kids who have "interracial" kids of their own I am sitting back and watching the world become one big "swirl". I think that people need to love one another more and let the entire "tired" racism thing go. Racism exisits on all levels and in cultures and colors. In 20 years there will hardly be a "true" race and thank goodness for that. Perhaps our "new generation" is teaching us a lesson we should look past what we have been taught and what is true in the eyes of G-d.
  • SAY RUSSELL I GRIND YOUR LATEST CLIP GOOD, BUT IT CAME UP AS TRASH. I DON,T KNOW WHAT HAPPEN (SORRY).
  • I fell in love when I was younger to a beautiful black woman, I married her specially because she was black as I thought it should be since I'm black man, I even had a child with her, but She almost killed me! Maybe I should say I almost killed her! lol.
    Then I met a classy white woman and had two children with her, she turned out no better! I even thought black woman were the best in bed for the longest time till I met Sandra! She was Italian. I've had relationships with all types of women and there are more similarities than differences. I am sure that applies to all genders. If you're stuck in believing one race/gender is better than another than you're stuck in the past, like listening to one type of music! The future/world will not wait for you.

    Happy Holidays
  • Well Russ, You say alot of things in your blog, but at the same time it doesn't change the fact that people are gonna say and feel a certain way because of the race issue. Some people have grandmothers/grandfathers tha have told the stories of what and how we were treated if we even looked at a white person, (MEN more so than women), but then you guys go and fall in love with these women.(not bad women)AND some people just can't figure it out...but to each is own!!!
  • I say to each his own on the love tip. Some people have a preference. My preference is you must have brown skin. I tried dating white folks but there was no spiritual connection there. What I find is that most people who think like Russ are worldly and well traveled individuals who have had a lot of opportunity in their life.

    Unfortunately that is not the case for most African Americans. Someone who is from the hood that has never had the same opportunities is not going to have the same mind set as say like a Oprah. Can you imagine her line of friends the people that she has come in to contact with over many years and the growth that comes with that?

    Love to me is an overrated thing. People fall in and out of love like changing underwear now a days.
    • I see your point and although valid, I'll have to disagree with you on a few things!! I am also from the hood, and because of that I had to force myself to go outside my surroundings, without having to travel the world!! You'll be suprised how many different and interesting people you'll meet in your own city and state!! Try it out by going to a bar you normally wouldn't go to or a club that plays something other than hip hop and try sparking up a conversation with someone outside your normal circle!! It's an experience that will help you see people in a more open view!! You're right about how love is viewed in relationships, but all I can tell you is love anyway!! When it's sincere and selfless, you will get that back in return!!
  • It's funny how you could have a fortune, but still suffer a poor mans struggle. Do your thing Russ.
  • ok...You are absolutely right. Beautiful is beautiful inside and outside, love is colorless. When people are declared great they are viewed constantly for many reasons.With that said ...Global Grind ( Russell's Blog) is here straighting out some misconceptions. Greatness is easily seen from a distance. The real challenge becomes when you get closer to that thing you declare great...When all the preconcived ideals have been explained and you see that person for who they truley are. Will you still consider him to be great? The truth is media paints us a picture weither it be true are not. Humans love news and they rellay pay attention when the news is negative. The picture you posted was on point.. I have seen millions of pictures of you. But,I have never seen that on.. I'm ashamed and proud at the same time. Ashamed because some of my thoughts we wrong and jugemental. And I consider myself balance thinking and fare. Proud because I was wrong..

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