Katie's Blog: That Lying, Cheating MotherF*cker!?

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Sometimes things just don’t feel right-- know what I mean?

Sometimes you are talking to your man or to your girl and the words coming out of their mouth aren’t matching the feeling they’re giving you.  You feel like something’s just not right.  You might tune in a little more after you feel that, looking for confirmation that the nervousness in your stomach is valid. 
I think we all know it on some level when we’re being lied to, cheated on, or when the person we love isn’t really present. 
I had a boyfriend a few years ago that started acting up, just being shady in general!  I couldn’t quite figure out if he stopped loving me or if he was just really worried about business (which is what he tried to say) His energy was all wrong and I felt like something switched in him and all of the sudden his intention toward me wasn’t good. 



Instead of trusting my vibe, I tried to logically explain things to myself.  I talked myself out of going with my intuition.   I also let him talk me out of going with my intuition.   In the end, it turned out that I was right.  He WAS being shady (in many many ways) and he was disrespecting our relationship and me for quite a long time. 

Anyone who has gone through a betrayal with a friend or lover can testify to what a crushing blow that can be to the ability to trust other people.  For me, the hardest part was really learning to trust myself.  I was like “wow, how could I be so stupid?” , “How could I have been so blind!?”


Since then I’ve learned the importance of trusting my vibes.  If something doesn’t feel right to me, even if I’m hearing all sorts of excuses flowing from another person’s mouth or even flowing from my minds, I choose my instinct rather than logic.  The wonderful lesson I’ve learned is that to trust your vibes can save you from endless amounts of pain.

If you feel like there are people around you who aren’t telling you the truth or who don’t have your best interest at heart, don’t talk yourself out of it.  If you have a friend or lover who says one thing, but makes you feel something else, something is wrong….Trust your vibe and remove that person from your life.  There are so many people who are meant to love and support you, but the first step to allowing them in is loving and trusting yourself.  Life is too short to spend with haters or with lying, cheating motherf*ckers.

Trust your vibes and follow your instincts.  There is plenty of love for you just ahead.

- Katie Rost

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  • I think this blog is a sign from god. i really have to make a decision.
  • Hey listen mommas....consider this as cutting the fat right off the chicken!!! alot of dudes become transformers....they change when they get paper or when the cameras are there! Homes lucked out....keep winning! leave the watered down dudes alone.....keep following your gut!
  • I love when Katie blogs!
  • So true, when it comes to relationships, you have to follow your intuition. A few years ago while I was in Iraq I had a gut feeling my (now)ex-wife was cheating on me. Something just didn't seem right about her tone of voice, actions, etc. Sure enough - I was right. Point is, even from 7,000 miles away you can tell these things. Ironically, sometimes it's harder when it’s happening right under your nose.
  • Love it!!
  • Katie,



    I am echoing what many others have said... Your blogs are something to look forward to. A woman's intuition is one of the best gifts that we are blessed with. ALWAYS trust it. Love can be so blinding. But valuable life lessons come when we ignore our intuition; we learn never to do it again:)

    Keep up the good work Katie!



    Peace and Blessings
  • I LOVE this post.



    I think that so many times people forget to listen to their intuition. I know I've been told that I'm the type of person who can see the good in anybody. Funny thing is, I always know when somethings not right... I ALWAYS feel it in my gut... but... in an effort to focus on the good in people, I ignore the bad. Thats how I end up getting myself in trouble.



    I heard a great piece of advice once... you should trust EVERBODY... that is, trust them to be exactly who they've showed you that are. Not who you would wish that they could be... but who they are right now at this moment.



    I'm really working on doing a better job on that...
  • Is this a re-post? Anyway, Katie good for you! You know what they say about a "woman's intuition"...always trust it! The older you get, you'll gain more confidence in that area. You also remind me of a quote by an unknow author that was given to me a some years ago...

    "We must be careful to choose the people we spend time with, as well as the information with which we feed our minds.

    We should not share our dreams with negative people, nor allow them to feed them us with negative thoughts." Who's in your front row?" and do they deserve to be there?

    Best to you,

    Marilyn

    @marilynscafesoc on twitter

    www.marilynscafesociety.com
  • nice job katie i am starting to enjoy ur blogs more n more

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  • good stuff katie very interesting i enjoy your blogs much

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  • Bravo!
    When this happens you want to believe the good in people especially those you love. If you are someone who is not a cheater or a liar then it is hard to understand why others are. I learned the hard way but what I also learned was to ALWAYS trust my instincts, because for me they have always been right!
    Thanks for the great article! XO
  • katie,

    another honest thought to continue the momentum of your post.

    i too have been in a unhealthy relationship and found myself making numerous excuses for the disrespect from my ex. i wished i hadn't ignored ALL the warning signs which i'll admit, had me down emotionally for a minute.

    yes, i've read and even went to go see the movie "he's just not that into you" which unfortunately serves as an entertaining model that many women leave themselves susceptible to unnecessary pain in their relationships.

    a healthy relationship is a parallel relationship. when one party tends to sway into another direction, our first reaction is to understand it and make up scenarios in our minds so we can accept it.

    i concur with you on trusting your first instincts. love can be a battlefield and we need as much armor to protect our hearts.
    • Not only do I love your ability to break it down and be vulnerable, but you are a really talented writer girlfriend! I'm sure you've heard that before. For real I can see that from even the short blurb you wrote. Keep it up and keep it coming!
      I haven't seen "He's Just Not That Into You" but I have the book. It kind of makes perfect sense AND it kind of offends the crap out of me... But the truth of it is men and women are at this constant state of confusion with each other and I do think any dialogue or insight is good. We gotta keep talking to each other and keep supporting each other. Right?!
    • right! i thank you for your kind words and please know that it means a lot coming from an equally gifted writer as well. i enjoy your topics immensely and will continue to check in.
  • I am a man of truth so I have to speak the truth of this matter...

    I believe Katie actually did follow her intuition...

    She just followed the wrong one...

    In her blog she clearly states that she talked herself out of going with her intuition but actually she probly was just going with the part of her brain that said he was a "Good Guy"...

    For example... A female will put up with a lot more lies when the man has a good bank account, or a nice house or cars... If he wines and dines you then your intuition will tell you "maybe he could be cheating, but who can I find to give me this good treatment"...

    Katie even admits that she was hoping that it was the guy worrying about his business...

    If the dude had a weak job then what are the chances your intuition allows you to believe his lies?



    So yeah... I believe she followed her intuition...

    Just the one inside all of us that has that gold digging mentality...



    PS

    I really did enjoy your blog

    Keep up the good work...

    1luv



    • AMAZING! You make such a good point, though in the end the gold digger turned out to be him. I've been blessed with enough wealth that the gold digging thing never really was an issue (hats off to my Mommy and Daddy and a great modeling career and probably dumb luck!) BUT, I still didn't want to investigate too much for flaws in that guy. I was so scared of being without him. It all taught me to value my inner voice and abilities though. For that lesson and for him giving me the situation to learn it I am truly grateful! Its worth the pain if we learn the lesson!
      Thanks so much for your thoughtful input...
      :-)))
  • people are chicken sh*ts.. women especially.. (in general) they're committed to a relationship or an idea of who their man is instead of their own happiness. the worst part is you could have three grandmas, 13 cousins and your "bff" tell you the OBVIOUS things and the stubborn woman still won't wanna deal with reality or make the "right decision".

    why?

    idk


    just ask rihanna's ass.

    don't ask me!

    my parents raised me to LOVE myself and to be honest and self repsecting

    (aka not a chicken sh*t)

    thanks and hope you're well

    and for rihanna and all her similar plighted young ladies

    YOU DESERVE WHAT YOU SETTLE FOR!
    • you make some GOOD points, for real.... can't really blame anyone for treating you wrong. You're only a victim the first time.... Gotta take responsibility for your own life, heart and spirit!
    • I agree.

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