SINGLE MOMMY

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When I think back on what life was like as a child, my mother amazes me. A single, beautiful woman who never let me down. With two masters in the arts finding a job was always difficult for her. She worked her ass of to make ends meet. She was always there for me and made sure I had what I needed and then some. 

Now I'm a single mommy with an eight year old son. He is my world, my most valuable creation and an image of my highest self. He comes first... ALWAYS. I am blessed to have financial security, a career that keeps on giving and the fearlessness to forge ahead when life gets complicated. I have more in my life than I ever imagined and I feel truly blessed to have a child. Many of my friends are starting to hear their biological clock ticking louder and louder. The fear of being alone in their senior years seems more like a reality. There is never a perfect time to have a child. There is no such thing as a perfect relationship. If you are ready to have a child.... DO IT!!! God has a way of working out the kinks and showing you the way. Married or single giving life to another human being teaches us what love is truly about and forces us to be at our best. Never have I loved like this. My faith is GOD is stronger than ever and my spirit is humble. 

There are days when I wish I had Nia time. There are days when money doesn't solve the emotional strain of single motherhood. I think about my own mother who made it through with flying colors and all I can say is "Thank you mommy!"

For all the GLOBAL GRIND single mothers......HOLD ON!!!!! There is a pot of gold at the end of the rainbow. 

MOMMY I LOVE YOU!!! Nia

COMING SOON: TIPS FOR THE SINGLE MOMMY

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  • Sorry for the spelling mistakes. My lunch break is nearly over and i just had to comment.
  • I would like to say to all the mothers keep strong and faith in God. I am not a 'Single mother' but i feel like one (isn't that sad.

    I have been blessed with two boys and they were nboth planned and wanted by their father, who feels that it is a womans job to raise the children. He feels that being there is enough, but i say that it is not.



    I have Lupus and and a financial accountant who works full time. I find i extremely difficult and exhusting having two small boys. When it get too hard i simply pray! I would not be without my boys but i wish their father would help out more. He will not leave me as he is actually happy and when i ask for help he just says that i am complaining and pays no attention.



    So, i just wanted to say that i know how difficult it can be but also how rewarding it is. There is nothing like a hug, kiss or a mummy (i'm English) 'I love you'! Nothing.



    Stay strong all.



    Love from across the water.x



    P.S, you are a great actress and i appreciate your work!
  • I too am a single parent of a 10 year old son. While I was not married when I had my son I had been with his father for five years prior to having him and stayed for another eight. I wanted so badly to make my family work. I now realize that as a woman that for the most part grow up with a single parent as my father died when I was 8, that I didn't want my son to have that sense of longing that I had and still do to this day for my dad.



    But what was even stronger than that yearning was my desire for more, wanting to be more, provide more, achieve more, experience more, with and for my son. I wanted to move him out of the Projects; I wanted to show him that there is so much more to life than our everyday experiences. So I had to say enough and walk away, from a partner that was fine just the way he was, if you know what I mean.



    It has not been an easy transition but I know that it was for the best. My son is my everything and there is nothing that I won't do for him. He is the driving force that keeps me going even when I feel like I can't make it. I will not stop until I get it; get it right for both of us.



    So I thank you Nia for your words of encouragement for I know that humility that you speak of. I thank all of the beautiful women in my life especially my mother and sister for they support me in a way that is so selfless.



    Mostly I thank God for putting people in my path, with the right words at the right time. He is so amazing!!!

  • Nia, I am a 31 year old single mother of an 8 month old beautiful little girl. It is amazing what we women can do! It was definitely a shock when I found out I was pregnant and I admit I did consider other options. I am blessed that I took the "high" road and had my baby. She is my joy and the reason I'm completing college, with a full-time job,so I can better our future! Thanks Nia and God Bless You!!!!
  • I too give props to all of the single mothers out there who have done, and are doing, what society thought they could not. However, it's a very strong statement when you tell a woman "There is never a perfect time to have a child. There is no such thing as a perfect relationship. If you are ready to have a child.... DO IT!!!" I feel that can be dangerous. It's hard enough having a child out of wedlock by accident. I think it could be detrimental to do it on purpose. I'm not going to elaborate on it... I just want everyone to think about it for a few ticks because your first decision is choosing a father. (A sperm bank is not an option because it's hard enough telling a 5 year old that their biological parents did not want them [adoption] or that their father chose to not be a part of their life, but how do you explain to them that they were purposely created in a medical facility by an unknown man?)



    Either way, I still love me some Nia Long also! :-)



    Bobby R. Bowden

    President

    Bowden & Levi Media Group

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  • Thank you Nia! I am as well a single mother of two girls 10yrs and 4 yrs,and I love them so much i can't imagine life without them. To hear you say that times get hard even when finances aren't a problem, that life it self can be challenging. Thank you for sharing Your human side to a young woman like myself who admires you. I didnt know you had a son. God Bless you always and to continue to enlarge your territory.
  • damn i love me some nia long
  • great stuff
  • Nia, i respect what you have to say. its great to read your words of advice and motivation, and i'm sure tons of parents, single or not, will gain a lot from what you have to say. stay blessed and keep God first!

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