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DON'T TAKE IT PERSONAL!

Posted by: Racha Fajjari 3/25/2009 | 1,169 Views

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It's a fact that women and men work/think/talk different. It's not a coincidence that women have the same problem with men and vice versa. If you want to disagree with me in this matter please explain me why the hell you never managed to change him? He will never change... It's because you're trying to change something that just is the nature of being human.

So what are the things that we really hate about them?

You think men are the ones who cheat more? Wishful thinking... I don't wanna say I'm a cheater - actually I'm really not (I believe it's easier and less dangerous to just tell my lover that I'm sexually attracted to another guy so he will do ANYTHING to get that desire out of my mind)... Still, some women are really brutal! I mean men always say that women think too much. Yes we do my dear but this is the reason why you believe everything she says - because she thinks when it gets to lying.

Aaaah and another one we hate about you is that no matter what, you'll never give a damn about birthdays, anniversaries how long you're with your girlfriend with, the day you met her and so on! WHAT'S WRONG WITH YOU!?!??

But hey, i guess this is just part of men's nature - take it! It's easier because once you don't care anymore he'll set an alarm and make sure he won't forget JUST to let you know that "hey, I'm not THAT retarded".

Thinking about our "things" that they hate about us i could only think of:

- Locking the door when we go to the bathroom (to do WHATEVER - none of your business!)
- We think too much (oh i'm sorry...)
- Always trying to be right (No no, we're just "trying" to explain you that we actually are)
- Watch s**t like "Whatever's next topmodel" on TV (i think it compensates football very much)

But hey at the end of the day these things don't matter at all and if you can accept that there are just certain things that we can't do or the fact that we do it the way we do it you can have a great laugh together...

We are the way we are and nothing in the world will ever change that and that's the beautiful thing about it.

Love
Racha

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i say that the things that drive your boyfriend made in a bad way will make your husband mad in a good way - 'thats what i believe' i really believe that loves unconditional - and i know that women have they're fits 'everyone needs there space now and then' but i'm not gunna go bizurk over a little tempertantrum cause that my baby and i dont wanna lose her because i lost my temper and escalated the whole situation when it could of gone the opposite direction- ::jeeze i missed !ALOT! no wonder your mad at me!!::

SANCTUARY 4/14/2009 | reply
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Dear, NWMasssMedia

On point, " our kids future ain't looking so bright."
After the 60's society has gone it's own way, it was cute and fun at the time but society is reaping the worrell-wind.

Matthew 24:12
Because of the increase of wickedness, the love of most will grow cold,

Pro.3:5-6; Acknowledge God in all you do and He will guide you
in all things.

John 4:7-8
God Is Love

7 Beloved, let us love one another, for love is from God, and whoever loves has been born of God and knows God. 8 Anyone who does not love does not know God, because God is love.

When you get tired of the heat, try bringing your father, the guy that has the blue print to you mind and heart back into the equation, your life.

This isn't just another cutesy, trite, religious ditty.

If God is God, seek him and his ways.

If you are God, seek your ways.

Just be prepared to live with the consequences, either way.

ReaL Love Song 3/28/2009 | reply
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This world is sad, women want to walk,talk,act and be like men---but when it's time to stomp in the shoes of a man they scream foul---smh--I wish I was raised in the old days...when men where men and women where women. Call me old fashion but our kids future ain't looking so bright.. it is what it is

NWMasssMedia 3/26/2009 | reply
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- I´m definitely feeling you and would love love love to be beamed back at least for ONE date... :-)
  
  Racha Fajjari 4/2/2009 | reply
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...oh and a note to the honey's. If you TRULY want us to remember those dates like holidays, anniversarys, birthdays and so forth????.... Offer to give us head on those days. Works every time!

giveusfree 3/26/2009 | reply
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- hahaha!
  I love a politically incorrect comment. Yes YES YES!!!! blow jobs for birthday gifts, the only logical exchange there is...
  
  Katie Rost 3/26/2009 | reply
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- I'm just trying to get my "grind" on mama lol!!
  
  giveusfree 3/26/2009 | reply
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Actually, I celebrate our differences. As aggravating as it is to accept about a woman at times, I wouldn't have it any other way. There are of course a LOT more things about women that aggravate men that what you stated, but the same can be true if you flip it. But our differences are beautiful at the same time. I definitely don't want a woman who acts and thinks like a man, and I would venture to say a woman doesn't want a man who acts and thinks like a woman. Feel me?

So bring your toilet seat up, hair in the sink (thank God for his/her bathrooms!), moving my stuff without me asking, foxy mouth self on over here mama...

giveusfree 3/26/2009 | reply
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- WAIT A MINUTE NOW!
  
  Classy Brown 3/30/2009 | reply
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Alot of these issues would be avoided if people date others that they are evenly yoked with. People nowadays have let the media, music, and what society thinks or says dictate how they date or marry. What happen to reading the Bible and trying to do things the way God wants us to? When you don't do it his way, you don't fare well. Let everything you do be approved in his eyes, things will go a whole lot better. Not saying things will be perfect but at least you have a solid foundation to share with a mate that shares your beliefs and values. And when things do go left, you can pray together and turn to the Bible to fix it. Jeremiah 10:23 "That to earthling man his way does not belong. It does not belong to man who is walking even to direct his step."

Dreia 3/25/2009 | reply
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- I agree with you only to a point!! Because I bet BeBe Winans thought he and his wife were equally yoked when they first got together too!! My parents aren't "equally yoked" and they have been together for more than 30 years now!! At the end of the day it's about love and understanding the other person. I can be a Christian and fall in love with a Muslim, as long as we understand each other and is accepting of each other differences, and not play the whole My God is better than you God game we will get along just fine!!
  
  3/30/2009 | reply
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Alot of these issues would be avoided if people date others that they are evenly yoked with. People nowadays have let the media, music, and what society thinks or says dictate how they date or marry. What happen to reading the Bible and trying to do things the way God wants us to? When you don't do it his way, you don't fare well. Let everything you do be approved in his eyes, things will go a whole lot better. Not saying things will be better but at least you have a solid foundation to share with a mate that shares your beliefs and values. And when things do go left, you can pray together and turn to the Bible to fix it. Jeremiah 10:23 "That to earthling man his way does not belong. It does not belong to man who is walking even to direct his step."

Dreia 3/25/2009 | reply
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LOL @ cheat dating. I knew it was a matter of time before women became so jaded with dating. The things me and my girlfriends discuss and talk about with women of the generation before us, they seem appalled. I just say things have changed and we are all going to be a mess.

Honestly I wonder if monogamy was ever really intended but is another topic all together.

Socialbuttaphly 3/25/2009 | reply
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You're right...I've never cared about holidays, birthdays or anniversaries but I learned a long time ago to "fake it til I make it" because if its important to my woman...I better act like its important to me.

And by the way, you forgot the number one thing guys hate most about women...WOMEN TALK TOO MUCH ;-)

u crazy girl...

John-John

JohnJohnSaidIt.com 3/25/2009 | reply
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- IF WE DON'T TALK NOTHING WOULD GET DONE. MEN ARE PROCRASTINATOR AT HEART, THAT WHY THERE ALWAYS ASK US FOR HELP,ADVICE,SEX
  
  hiphopvideovixens 3/25/2009 | reply
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- I guess you have a good point because I procrastinated responding to your comment...lol...yet it still doesn't change the fact that women love to talk way too much.
  
  But its kool...I've become a good listener.
  
  John-John
  
  JohnJohnSaidIt.com 3/26/2009 | reply
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- And women think they are the experts on relationships, but still so many are single or always with the wrong man!! So maybe women should start talking to the fellas for a change on how to get a man to act right and how to spot a good one when he's right in your face! So you are right about the no talking thing but both side need to get the dialouge flowing!!
  
  3/30/2009 | reply
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- SOMEONE´s gotta do it no?
  
  Racha Fajjari 4/2/2009 | reply
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Your on the money with this
Every thing I hated about men. I now love the more I mature. There lying cheating ways taught me the art What I Call Cheat Dating. Never again will I ever consider my self as girlfriend, Now I will only be label as Friend-Girl,which gives me the option to CHEAT ON EVEY

hiphopvideovixens 3/25/2009 | reply
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- cheat date. For some strange reason, when I tell men I date more than one guys they love it. My open honest policy has created a race for my heart,which has gotten me laughing all the way to bank. Never have I ask for the flowers,diamonds,vacations,clothes,I'm given. Men are competitive by nature And the thought of winning turns them on. The fact that I want commit keeps the race going cause they know there is prize at end.
  
  hiphopvideovixens 3/25/2009 | reply
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- A race for your heart? I don't know what kind of men you date love, but a real man doesn't seek the affection of a woman who opens herself up to many men. Who wants to be in a race that never ends? Fighting for a woman's affection isn't about the Popeye, Brutus, Olive Oil story where you essentially "outbid" any other suitors for a woman's affection because there is always someone out there who can "outbid" the next man. And if a woman isn't stable, she is always up for bid. A man who seeks your affection for himself would never get it. He merely seeks your attention for the moment, and if the money satisfies you, he takes those things from the situation that give him salient satisfaction as well. Temporary fulfillment is a two-way street.
  
  Women dating multiple men for money, men dating multiple women for ass.. it sounds sad to me. Where is the substance?
  
  giveusfree 3/26/2009 | reply
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- Correction: women date men hoping one day to find there soul mate, the aim of dating to assessing the others suitability as their partner How can this be achieved if you don’t date. I never stated I was in relationship or sleeping with any men. I date without making promise or false statement of commitment to anyone. Unlike many women I know my worth, everyone I date is not worthy of sexually relationship with me I value my body as god temple and all the perks I receive don't get me in bed.
  Its just fun watch guys work for some ass
  Men dating multiple (all) women for ass Period. It Up to the women to make sure she don’t fall under that bridge to be used by a man for some ass There not to many men that can say they has only slept with one women, but you ask me where the substance? Ask yourself that (so sad)
  Are we not allow to date more than one man at a time .It’s ok If man does, but if a women admits she dates more than one guy at time she not accepted as a good person. When men date multiple women there only labeled as Cheater.
  So your dishonest manner are excepted as OK in the world but mind are not. Where all up forbid until we get married (how many women are trying be your wife) how many women have you open her self up to. Sorry to tell you women really don't care for men who has slept with many women either. As a women it my job to weed out the the fake men who only want some p***sy.How many men you know looking for wife? I'm sure not many. Stability is not a issue when your comfortable with who you are as person and you don't allow others to control your thought are ways as most men attempt to do with women.
  Dating: is about searching for a connection to establish a relationship dating involves a complex set of social rules and conventions by which I set my own that are geared for me not to be hurt or hurt anyone else. Honesty is the best Policy. At this time I chose not to be wife or girlfriend I'm enjoying life.
  Where my substance? Is in god
  My mind belongs to me
  My heart belong to god
  My body belongs to me, whom: Every I chose to share it with!!!!!!!!!
  
  hiphopvideovixens 3/26/2009 | reply
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- I do appreciate you clarifying yourself love and that was well put. However you did work under a few assumptions that I wanted to possibly correct. First, although I know there is a general consensus that men dating multiple women is cool, that is something I never stated. I stated that both women dating multiple men for money AND men dating multiple women for ass hold an equal lack of substance. Women state vehemently these days the right to be promiscuous based on the fact that men are, but since when did two wrongs make a right? Why is it sameness we seek? Are we to resign to one another's wrongs? How about someone in either of the sexes ascribing to a higher order instead of following one another in error?
  
  Secondly, I never stated whether or not you were having sex with these men. That's strictly your business mama, and I don't judge based off of that. I was only replying to what I read concerning financial gain at the behest of these men who seek your affections. Women and men view dolling out money on an entirely different level. While you're laughing all the way to the bank, he's not just looking at what he did for you as a gift cause you're so fine. He looks at it as an investment. And the more he kicks out to you, the more invested he feels. So please be mindful of that.
  
  Third, I am certainly not perfect, so I am not passing judgement. I'm merely making an observation and commenting based off my experiences. All I'm saying is that for me, there is a certain type of woman I seek if I want to entertain a serious relationship with her. You can be honest as you want and that's all good with me. But once you tell me that you have multiple "friends" or "dates", I'm not going to look at you as serious wifey material. And if a man either tells or shows you that, I would suggest you look at him the same. That's just me love... I could be wrong for that, but it works for me.
  
  giveusfree 3/26/2009 | reply
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- And also, please be mindful that when men invest into you they do not want to feel as they wasted there time and money.. A friend of mines thought the same, she was doing her (men do it) But playing with a man's emotions can land you in a casket--- it is wrong but it is real,,, Not only was she getting gifts, trips and all these things from these guys--she felt as she was the baddest b*tch until one day they cross paths.. She was honest with them and told them about each other---but something about a man's ego can not take knowing that he is putting his time and money into a chick that laying up or kicking it with the next man.. Yeah it's all good until they see it with there own eyes and now things change! They feel like a sucker.. Long story short she took two azz kicking off those guys and learned a lesson about playing with people emotions. This is something that women and men need to stop doing. If you have no intentions on being with that person than taking trips, money or even there time is wrong. Those guys felt that they wasted all there money and time on her (yeah she told them she was dating but of course you don’t think it’s real until you see it) At that point they thinking that they could have been giving it to somebody else. (People catch feelings and you never know how deep a person is feeling you) And abuse is wrong--I don't think a man should put his hands on a women period---but at the end of the day it takes a second for a person to snap.. So even if it's fun to have men compete be careful because there mouths says it cool but there ego's can not take it...
  
  NWMasssMedia 3/27/2009 | reply
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Exactly.

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