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A Letter To My Father, Al. B Sure.

Posted by: Quincy Brown 4/14/2009 | 59,609 Views

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A Letter To My Father

I’ve been inspired throughout my life by special circumstances and unique experiences. Foremost, I grew up with a family that injected me with unconditional love and enduring confidence. This is my foundation … the family holidays and celebrations with my maternal lineage … supportive smiles in audiences at school programs … guiding hands to complete homework and special projects in the wee hours of the morning.

However, I grew up without my father, an irreplaceable force and influence that was absent in my life. I watched other kids enjoy the embrace of theirs, and I searched for a way to reconcile the meaning of my circumstance.

Despite my pain, I’ve imagined a life as a good son with my father. Baseball … Playing in School Band … Church … All of the things that he would expect his son to do, I’ve done. I’ve stood in front of audiences to receive awards. I heard their applause and praise. But, the accolades have been absent the sound of his clapping hands and encouraging words … his voice that I could distinguish in my sleep. Where has he been?

Now, I reflect on the journey, the pain, the challenges, and the triumphs through this song. I’m reconciled as a man, no longer a boy, in verse. Now, I know that I’m not alone.

Albert Brown, also known as “Al B Sure!” is my biological father, but Sean Combs, also known as “Diddy” has been a father figure in my life for as long as I can remember. Sean Combs is the person whom I look up to and appreciate as a father. He is the one who help mold me into the person I am today and will always try to live up to his expectations. He has always been supportive of me and I will forever love and respect him. As far as my biological father goes, the “spitting image” is all I have taken from him. Throughout my life, I’ve always wondered about him; Where he was? What was he doing? and most importantly, Was he even thinking about me? The absence of my father has given me a better understanding of what type of man I am going to be. I am grateful for my mom’s love, support, guidance, and for her strength.

To those who share my plight, know that you have a great future … a DESTINY. Take the lemons that you are handed and make lemonade. Your journey is in “A Letter To My Father.”

- Quincy “iQ” Brown
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Letter To My Father - iQ

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juliet120 10/20/2009 | reply
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As a major fanof both your Dad and Stepdad, this is a tragic situation! I think there are alot of hurt feelings involved that you don't know about. I think onle Diddy, your Mom , Al and God know about! The bottom line though is that as christians we MUSt forgive , and make the best of the situation. Having issues with my Dad, who was there but abusive, I know the drill! But in order for me to live and become the man and father that I am today . I had to forgive , and when I forgave I forgot! cause I realised he loved me the best he knew how! As far as your dad , maybe that was the best he could do , in his opinion. So never give up hope , young man! God is in the miricle business! All the best bro! Saludos y Bendeciones!!

Polo67 8/25/2009 | reply
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Mr. "IQ" Even at my age, I am able to so--relate to your words about your father being absent from your life because they reflect emotions, feelings and experiences that I have lived --and you're so blessed to have had a Mr. "Diddy" who could be the man God intends for every man to be, I feel--to be there and help your mother mold both your ideas, pitfills and successes you unfold as you continue to grow as an adult. You are so blessed, as am "I" but I don't know yet what it's like to even have a fill-in father, one like Mr. "Diddy" who cares enough to not just say, I love you now while you're young and cute and not quite as hard to handle but to stick it out ... all these years all the way...until today! Just count your blessings that you've made it this far and you do have your biological fathers good looks as well... and are you able to be measured as a man in your own right? U believe Mr. "Diddy" has started you on the right track.

joynpayne 6/23/2009 | reply
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U KNO WAT QUiNCY KEEP DOiN YOU..MY DAD AiNT AROUND.PERiOD.iM 14 YEARS OLD AND HAVENT SEEN MY FATHER iN 3 YEARS.LAST TiME i SAW MY DAD iT WAS THE DAY BEFORE WHAT i THOUGHT TAH BE THE bIGGEST DAY OF MY LiFE..MY 6TH GRADE TALENTS SHOW..HE PROMiSED TO COME..i SUPPLYED HiM WiTH DiRECTIONS AND EVERYTHiNG..i GUESS i JHUSZ WASNT iMPORTANT ENOUGH FOR HiM TAH CUM..BUT iT DNT MATTER CUZ MY MOS ALWAYS TOLD ME THAT i WAS LOVED..AND i KNOW THAT FOR A FACT..4GET WHOEVER THAT iS UNDER ME..SHE OBVIOUSLii DONT KNO WAT iTS LiKE..TALKiNG BOUT YA MOM AND DiDDY WASNT AROUND..CUZ iT SEEMS AS iF SHE UNCOMPASSiONATE AND iGNORANT..

lauren 6/20/2009 | reply
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Obviously Diddy and your mother are not really around in your life either, because if they were they would have encouraged you to speak to your father directly, rather than "air your dirty laundry" on a website for the world to see. I just have to wonder what type of guidance you are getting that both of them did not encourage you not to do this.

I also find it interesting that you are sharing your story--the fact that Diddy has been there for you as a dad--as a sad commentary against your father, rather than expressing how fortunate you are that you actually had a father figure in your life at all.

My nephew's father was never around his whole life because he was too busy raising his other children and he was a drug addict. He knew my nephew existed but he just chose to be somewhere else (with his habit and his other kids). Consequently, my nephew did not have a father figure at all in his life---and I'm sure there are many men out there that share this story. So count your blessings. Since you know who your father is, go talk to your father and resolve this issue with him personally, not on a website where people don't know you, your mother, or your father and/or the complete story.

soccriss 5/10/2009 | reply
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I DONT KNOW WHAT MAN CAN TURN HIS BACK ON HIS CHILDREN EXCEPT NOTHING SURPRISES ME WITH ABS, AND NOW HE WANTS YOU TO BUY HIS RECORD. LOSER. NO WAY WOULD I SUPPORT AL B SURE OR ANY OTHER DEADBEAT. DO NOT BUY HIS CD!

Karma 5/9/2009 | reply
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- I am not trying to be funny or anythng. However, I am after the truth. Why do you hate him so much?
  
  Lady 6/22/2009 | reply
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I'm sorry, but it aint no coincident that his step-father just happens to be a mogul in the entertainment industry (founder & CEO of Bad Boy) and this kid expresses his anger for his biological father who is also a music ledgend (platinum selling recording artist & producer) in the same field as Diddy. Now, what's a little bit off is the fact that both Diddy and Al B. Sure! used to work for Andre Harrell (Uptown Records)...that's where Kim (Quincy's Mom) comes into the picture. But I say all that to say this: It all may be true but the drama comes off as a bit corny when it's put out there for the world to judge, especially when we don't even know the half of it. Come on now. We all know how things can be. Not sayin that it's right to just leave your seed hangin. Because it's not right. However, dude (Al) didn't even had a chance to defend himself and people are postin stuff up in the internet like crazy. Come on now, y'all. That aint cool.

5/4/2009 | reply
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This message is for Q only and I would like to say that I applaud you for standing up for yourself. There is no one....I mean not anyone can feel the way you feel today...Keep your head up because good things will continue to come your way. My mother she was given up when she was just a baby and she did not even know know who her parents were and when she reached out at the age of sixteen her biological mother did not want to have anything to do with her. But rest her soul before she died she always knew who raised her and who loved her...

Love you, God bless and take care of yourself....

lady1966 4/28/2009 | reply
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- Al B Sure! SUFFERS FROM MULTIPLE PERSONALITY DISORDER, HE CANNOT BE HELPED.
  
  Karma 5/1/2009 | reply
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I can see it being played on Father's Day every year. Good Job iQ :)

TheNewYorker 4/21/2009 | reply
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- I hope they play this song every fathers day foreva to remind the world what a piece of crap Al B Sure is!!!
  
  Karma 4/22/2009 | reply
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- Does anyone know Al B Sure personally. Can we all get some details on the situation...
  
  TheNewYorker 4/23/2009 | reply
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- Yes, he is a lying piece of sh*t human being.
  
  Karma 4/29/2009 | reply
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- I knew Al B. personally, worked with him for years in the studio. He always treated me really well.
  
  Dan Beroff 6/19/2009 | reply
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Okay, has anyone actually listened to the song??? THE sh*t IS FIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIRE!

TheNewYorker 4/21/2009 | reply
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- that sh*t is lame as f*ck!!!!!!!!!!!!
  
  trill4real 4/22/2009 | reply
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- YOU SUCK MONKEY BALLS :)
  
  TheNewYorker 4/22/2009 | reply
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- Lol you funny as hell!!!!! Square ass groupie stop riding ya boy dick that sh*t suck!!!!! you lame as hell for defending it!!!! I get money and f*ck bad bitches l7 ass n*gga
  
  trill4real 4/22/2009 | reply
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- Whatever Man! You SUCK!
  
  TheNewYorker 4/23/2009 | reply
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- I can tell you are very young, you still out there f*ckin bitches & sh*t. Sticking your little a$$ dick every & anywhere. SMH
  
  TheNewYorker 4/23/2009 | reply
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- L7
  
  trill4real 4/30/2009 | reply
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Quincy, i understand how you are feeling, but remenber Al is your father, YOUR REAL FATHER. The only thing to do is to forgive him. Writing a letter to your dad and publicly humiliate him, is a disgrace. Tell me one thing? critically thinking, you actually think diddy would give his life for you? well sweetheart, i got news for you. HELL NO HE WONT! because you are not his son. but your father im sure he would. Hey, i dont blame you for feeling the way you do, but you also need to do some soul searching. BLOOD IS THICKER THAN WATER!

reebee002 4/20/2009 | reply
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- I agree with your comment.I couldn't of said it better myself.
  
  Mae 4/20/2009 | reply
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- Blood may be thicker than water, but that has nothing to do with why he was not there for his son. You say that he is humiliating his father, what do you think his absence has done to him. Did you read his letter or listen to his song. No more excuses for dead beat parents. We all make choices, AL B Sure will have to live with his. Everyone that is capable of parenting a child should not have one. I pray for peace for this young man, maybe one day he and his father will be able to reunite, but right now his PAIN is REAL.
  
  Ms. Brown Eyes 4/21/2009 | reply
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- could not have said it better @ Brown Eyes. No more excuses for deadbeats!
  
  Karma 4/21/2009 | reply
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- give me a break. he was far from humilating him. he was stating the truth as he sees it.
  
  blood isn't thicker than water, when your "blood" doesn't care for you.
  
  i'm happy you've had some great family relationships, but there are many who have a parent or two who doesn't know what their children are up to, nor
  
  4/24/2009 | reply
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- dear globalgrind, please refrain from offering two submit buttons--one with gears and one with a trash can. :)
  
  4/24/2009 | reply
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- all that being said, i'm not feeling the track; however the lyrics (which also could have been delivered better) definitely hit a nerve!
  
  4/24/2009 | reply
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- I totally disagree. I am a parent. My main duty and responsibility is to be the front lines for my child. I am the director of his support system, and I must always keep him and his needs as a priority in my life. He did not ask to be here, I brought him into this world, and to leave him wanting or needing me be the worse possible thing I could ever imagine.
  
  This young man has been supported by, raised by, respected as a person who needs love and protection and support by, and taught how to be a man by Sean Combs. Say what you want about Diddy, Diddy is the persona, Sean Combs is the man, the person who wakes up in the morning and puts his pants on one leg at a time like everyone else. Whether he would give his life for him is not a question, he has given his life TO him! To raise a child that is no your own is as self-less as it gets. You have to respect that!
  
  Whatever Quincy Brown, or any other young person in his situation feels is valid, and his words should be heard, if he wants to communicate them. To assume his purpose was to humiliate his biological father is absurd. However, his father should be humiliated and embarassed! Creating a child goes so much further than being a sperm donor...it is about CREATING a soul, a life, a heart...that will grow and give back to the world. It is highly embarassing to me, as someone's parent, that this child had to grow up without the support and love of his father, that he obviously missed and needed!
  
  This is not about Blood or Water...this is about love...and love is a verb...it requires action, and whatever man provided the love that Quincy Brown needed to mature into a thoughtful, respectful, and successful man is worthy of all the love he has to give, all of his praise, and of all of his respect.
  
  F*&$ a deadbeat!
  
  4/27/2009 | reply
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- I agree with you about the letter, it should have been kept between Quincy and Al but also lets think of the impact that the situation has on Quincy's life alway wanting his biological father there and not having him. Maybe this is the only way he felt he could get his father (Al) to hear him. I say Good Job Quincy ( I hope your Father does what is right) My son to is experiencing a very similar situation so I hope everything turns out great for you.
  
  It does not take Blood to be a family!!!
  
  NotGoingToTell 5/10/2009 | reply
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My son went thru dealing with an absent father as well as I did..Our fathers went on to make other children, whom reaped the benefits of having him there. Sometimes there are things that go on between the mother and father that are not completely revealed to the children. There is alot that happens when people break up, epecially if it is bitter. Your missing your real father is natural..but don't let it hender you in anyway..my son is now 19 and his father left his life at 4..his dad went on to make more kids..but..it is still my son's choice to seek his father no matter how I feel as his mother..yes I raised my son right, and like you, he is a spitting image of his dad(but cuter)..he's in his second year in a prestigous college majoring in Civil Engineer..and yes I am very proud..but it was hard and any single mother who says it isn't is lying..no matter what another man does for you it will never replace what you desire in your heart to have with your father..your letter was an inspiration to so many kids in so many households whom didn't have daddy..You seem like a very bright young man..and yes you are the spitting image of your dad..but you are not him..live your life baby boy.

sincere123 4/20/2009 | reply
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Everyday I watch my two children, who look so much like their father and I know that one day they are going to grow up and ask questions and my prayer is that he will stil be living, so they can have a relationship. i write this to say that i think it's good that you are able to express yourself, but life is too short and you should be grateful that Al b is still alive. when my twins get old enough to ask their father why he wasn't around, I am going to encourage them to be grateful for anytime that they have together. I am going to have to tell my kids that I told their father that he was not their father and when he insisted that they were. I told him

someone else was going to raise his kids. I know I was wrong, but I was very emotional and I said so many things that I didn't mean during my pregnacy.

I think that noone knows and the best people to talk to is your biological father and mother. Although this public bashing might make it more difficult for them to be honest with u.

mzkey 4/19/2009 | reply
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Hi Q,

I understand your pain. Only you know the pain and sadness you feel regarding your father. I am a musical fan of your father. I honestly can't say what type of father he was. However, I do believe there is two side to your story. It is not for me or anyone else to figured it out. I really don't think you should use the media to display your business to the public. You should really sit down with your father and perhap your mom and discuss the problem. You should appreciate what Diddy has done for you, but don't give up on your father.

Mae 4/19/2009 | reply
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God Bless you and Your family, your story is an inspiration to alot of fellas throughout the world.

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