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ATTENTION ALL BABY MAMAS...YES, THAT MEANS YOU

Posted by: Ed Lover 5/4/2009 | 3,366 Views

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Mother's Day is approaching and I wanted to take a few minutes to shout out all the baby mamas...you don't want to miss this because

Who the f*ck? What the f*ck? How in the holy damn hell?

Is a child nothing more than a check to you? Then what the f*ck ladies?

I hate to hear a woman say that another woman 'came up' cause she married some NFL or NBA ball player and had a baby by the dude! Cause girl you know once she has his baby that's money for at least 21 years! Does it matter if he's a decent motherf*cker? Does it matter if he has like 9 other kids with different women around the country? No cause these greedy bitches look at a child like a pay check! All they give a f*ck about is the money!

How much money they gonna get a month for having a baby! That sh*t turns my stomach! What happened to all the independent ladies? All that sh*t you throw your hands up to in the club?! All the single independent women in the house make some noise! And they yelling and screaming at the top of their lungs knowing that they living off of a child support check! That's not being independent! That's being dependent. If you honestly, get the check and use it to wholly support your child, more power to you. I ain't talking to you or about you. So save your asinine comments.

But if you the kind of lowlife b*tch that talks that independent bullsh*t but can't pay a damn thing without that child support check, then it's you that I'm talking to! Keep your f*cking hands down in the club and stop fronting! Let him speak to his child and be a part of the child's life even when he's late on the payment or really can't make the payment that month at all.

Stop using children as a means to support yourself! Stop shopping for yourself with your child's money! It's called CHILD Support! Not no good ass BABY MAMA Support! Stop using your child as pawn in your wicked ass Chess game! Get YOUR OWN! YOU'LL BE PROUD YOU DID AND GET MORE RESPECT! SHOUT OUT TO ALL THE SINGLE MOTHERS DOING IT ON THEIR OWN 4 REAL!

Just my opinion! Like it or don't!

Remember: Opinions are like assholes.....Everyone has one!

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All this "Full time" mother talk is garbage. No man is paying for you to stay home with the kid. If you were married and had an agreement that you'd stay home and watch the kids while the husband goes out and makes the money then OOOOK....that's a reasonable agreement between MARRIED people. In a baby momma/daddy situation there is no agreement like that. YES it's reasonable to expect that SOME of the money coming in from child support should be used for A PORTION of the bills(mortgage, rent, electric, etc)...this means you need to put your money towards the rent too......it's not reasonable to expect child support to pay for everything.....and it's definitely not for the babies mother to pay for a spa day, or a pair of jeans, or her nails, or anything related to items intended for personal use. YOU ARE NOT HIS WOMAN!

Sorry I had to put it like that. I know there are plenty of women out there that don't participate in the shady baby mother stuff.....I salute those women.

P.S.

This idea that it's the mans fault because he slept with her is so ridiculous. That means a man should always approach a women like she's triflin. That's not fair to the women that aren't like that.

Lawrence 10/2/2009 | reply
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I've always said, if you have a choice between your time/freedom and money, I would ALWAYS choose my TIME/FREEDOM. I could use my own time and freedom to find a way to make more money, but time you can NEVER get back! Believe me, these guys are getting off EASY!!! If they had to do all of the above, PLUS sign a check, then I could understand the gripe.

But, C'MON SON!!!

The "father" may have to sign a check, but they get to sleep when they want, wake up when they want, eat what, when and how much they want, they can go places and do things without having to find sitters first and then worry all the while "how they doin' your baby", they don't have to ask or negotiate a plan to take vacation/go out of town/the country. They can jump in thier car and go wherever they want, when they want without it being a giant production of packing diaper bags, snapping car seat buckles and dispensing sippy cups. They can also play the music as loud as they want in their cars or home and listen to all the curse words too! Not to mention ride around without a host of infant/toddler/booster seats in their car! On top of that, they don't have to seek treatments or go through extraordinary measures to combat horrible stretch marks, incontinence, apisiotomies, etc, etc thrust upon them from pregnancy/childbirth. Also, I have yet to see a man suffer from painful engorged and leaking breasts or go through the emotional and physical turmoil of breastfeeding/weaning!

I say SO WHAT if the "baby mama" wants to support herself while you support the kids! Trust me, parenting IS NOT EASY!!! If someone finds that it is, then please believe, YOU'RE NOT DOING IT RIGHT!!! If she's smart she would invest/save some of that check, because parenting doesn't pay Social Security nor come with a 401K or IRA option.

Married Momma 9/21/2009 | reply
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- Get a job!!! You not the only one with a kid and has to work. Ed L hit it right on the head....its CHILD support...the money needs to go towards supporting the child...not bitter baby mama shopping.
  
  Lawrence 10/2/2009 | reply
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Chance D & That One...I TOTALLY AGREE!!!

I am married, degreed, and working and STILL 95% of my paycheck goes to our 2 kids. With daycare, babysitting, clothes, food, grooming/personal products, diapers, baby necessities, school pictures/fieldtrips/lunch/actitivites, etc, etc, etc. On top of waking at 4:30am for an 8am job to groom, dress, feed, pack and transport everyone to their respective daytime occupations, then work 9 hours only to take the next 3 hours to pick up kids, run errands, make dinner, check homework/read and sign school stuff, give baths, read bedtime stories and finally put kids to bed. Oh yeah, then use the next hour cleaning the kitchen, washing dishes, picking up around the house, doing laundry and catching up on personal emails/phone calls. As anyone has noticed, their is NO time (or energy, money, & help) for self (the mom) in a typical workday. I won't even go into the weekends! They are just like work also!

So I say MORE POWER to the woman of means (even if it is child support $) who can PAY someone to come in and ACTUALLY BE THE OTHER PARENT once in a while so that the woman of the house who makes the children's (and family's) world go 'round can refresh herself, save her sanity and give herself a pat on the back for a job well done so that she can wake up the next day (and everyday until either she or her children pass away) and do it ALL OVER AGAIN!

Married Momma 9/21/2009 | reply
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- Yes. Use the CHILD support money for the babysitting. Use your money to pamper yourself.
  
  Am I missing something here? Why are we acting like the men are the ones setting the custody situation? Yea you work your butt off but when it gets to court and a man is asking for the kids more often they're met with a NO.
  
  Lawrence 10/2/2009 | reply
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No children should not be used as pawns...but fathers should not be given an open door policy either...So u dont have your financial contribution to the welfare of this child but I should allow you to come over and hang out. Maybe once....but if it becomes a pattern doesnt that often say something about this mans commitment to filling his childs needs? ACS wont let me just hang out with my children if I show them that I have no way to feed, clothe, or house them will they??

Chance D 9/18/2009 | reply
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And as a former child myself I cant imagine not wanting my mother...who gave every ounce of herself in raising me...not to have some of everything I ever got from my dad...and Im sure you feel the same way about your mother...Because for every 24/7 week she put into us...she deserved far more than the childsupport she got...so had she used some of the money to treat herself nice here and there, I wouldnt have begrudged her the splurge. Some of those things helped her be the best FULL TIME mother she could be. So to all those women using their well deserved and well earned childsupport checks to do ANYTHING that benefits their child...more power to you. Sometimes a man needs to learn to take FULL responsibility for his actions. Reality is reality...if you have a baby by a man with a certain amount of wealth then his portion of the financial obligation of caring for a child might just be enough to live out of...and I can tell you while you are shouting out the single mothers FORCED to be doing it by themselves..that even they would relish the opportunity to have a child by someone whose finances might allow them a chance to enjoy raising their child more fully...instead of working hours and hours...struggling...sacrificing valuable time they could be spending with their child...and missing out on important milestones in their childs life ...ALL BECAUSE THEY ARE DOING IT ALL ALONE...VERY FEW WOMEN WANT TO BE SINGLE MOTHERS ED! And I am sure many of them would jump at the chance to have their childs father play an active role in their childs life financially but just dont have the option.

Chance D 9/18/2009 | reply
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It is just as much their own fault as it is the woman involved if you find yourself in a predicament like the one u describe here Ed. Men are careless and irresponsible when choosing suitable mothers for their children and women as well when choosing these fathers. At the end of the day if you are concerned with your hard earned money being misused and you know full well how much you are worth(NBA and NFL players etc.) then be more intelligent when you choose who you lay down with raw. And if by chance an innocent child comes out of it...be a man and take care of it without complaint. There is virtually no way for a woman not to reap the benefits of any financial assistance her child receives (especially early on in the childs life).

Chance D 9/18/2009 | reply
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So....Ed...whom I have been a long time fan of and respect a great deal...let me get this straight...you are no longer considered an independent WOMAN...if you demand that the man, who laid down with you and helped you to conceive a child, help you to financially support his own offspring..."To all the women in the club raising their hands when someone says independent women and living off child support checks", lemme understand ed...if a man is living at a certain level...(standard) shouldnt his children then be afforded a comparable lifestyle? So if Baby Momma wants to buy a nice home or drive a nice car so that her child's way of life can be better, she's wrong unless she pays for it all by herself...Even though she didnt make the baby alone...Listen Child support is just that...child support. At the end of the day whatever the judge decides you can afford to give( within reason) After examining your finances...thats what you need to cough up. If you dont like it, make better choices earlier on. There is no one way street when it comes to this situation. Please stop letting these men off the hook so easily.

Chance D 9/18/2009 | reply
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How about wearing a condom? How about learning about a woman before f*cking her? These NFL and NBA dudes seeing these beautiful freak b*tches and bust all in them. The blame is on the ignorant ballers as it is on those women trying to come up. I HATE when men say my babymama crazy she this she that, guess what she was crazy when u was f*ckin her raw and u were not complaining so STOP bitchin now!
And yes I have a beautiful child. THAT I SUPPORT! Her father is an amazing person who helps out and is supportive. But being a single mother is 100 times harder then just sending in a check.
Mothers make the sick babies better, mothers pick the schools, wipe the butts, take time off for school trips and doctor visits, we make the bad dreams go away, we kiss them goodnight EVERY NIGHT. Being a FULL TIME parent is much more difficult then sending in a check.

That one 5/10/2009 | reply
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- Soooooo, because a man wanted to have sex with a woman without protection she should let him? Just because he's rich/famous/whatever doesn't mean he's disease free. And if she's taking the risk and not using the morning after pill our any other means of prevention before OR after, then what is she doing? Exactly. The baby is carried in HER womb, not his. SHE passes it through the birth canal, not him. So at the end of the day, THEM HOES KNOW WHAT THEY DOING!!!!
  
  Some Dude 9/15/2009 | reply
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lol, Tru, Mother's mos definitly be appreciated on this day, We dont get shyt else through out the year. But durty dishes, I want dinner, kids sleep at 7pm. and house clean, laundry done, windows washed, lawned mowed, and my dayum sink fixed!Lets go

5/9/2009 | reply
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Allow me to place my law degree aside for a minute and take it back to P-town (Paterson, NJ).

If men know that certain women are seeking to "cash in", then why do the splash off in them knowing that such actions could possibly produce a child?? Why are you having sex with someone you have no intentions on marrying???

Just imagine for one minute if men and women waited until they were married before having sex.

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NoLongerAGrinder 5/9/2009 | reply
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Well I have a few things to say but I want...It's Mothers Day everyday where I live Atlanta...My son is my joy I have 3 degrees and working on another,,,f*ck you sorry ass men...and Ed...you are a joke. My pride and joy does not need check, he need someone to teach him how to catch a f*cking ball and ride a damn bike. I make the bread. all ladies ain't out to get yah...just be the man God created your damn fat hater.....I am so pissed at you..I grew up on your ass all respect is lost like Calvin from 227 BIOTCH! You are now a joke..i used to mention you when the words Hip Hop came out my mouth now I will spit at the though of you for this post...blog my pretty little comment FOOL...

5/8/2009 | reply
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preach ed i pay hella child support and it s killing me I'm a 2x convicted felon & i sometimes want to resort to my old habits but I try to stay right but your point is 110% valid stay up my dude

effupayme 5/8/2009 | reply
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ok, who the hell is Ed Lova?

mj 5/7/2009 | reply
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- Who is Ed Lova (Lover)???!!!! LMAO.....you must be a young buck.
  
  Eileen3118 5/8/2009 | reply
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- No Boo-Boo, You must be or you would know who Ed Lova is.Evidently you was not around long enough to remember YO MTV Raps! You must be one of those B*thces he's referring to in his blog. Young Scrappy!!!
  
  KSassy 5/8/2009 | reply
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- my reply was to MJ, so my fault Eileen!! I see we in the same league
  
  KSassy 5/8/2009 | reply
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If you didn't say it, I would've. Cheers to the big dog for laying it out exactxly how it needs to be...ignorant-catered! No fillers or sugar coating!

KEY-OUT!

mindfulljones 5/7/2009 | reply
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Ed I do agree with you. I think women today are very confused on what it means to be a women not a grown up who happens to be a female. It's sad because females like this give women like myself a bad name. I am single with no kids and still have trouble finding a "REAL MAN". I am glad you spoke about this.

divatudenj 5/7/2009 | reply
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