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Katie's Blog: The Right Support

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The past few months have shown me how essential it is to have good, solid, trustworthy support in my inner circle of friends, lovers and advisors.  
Without that, maintaining balance in this crazy, fast paced life becomes impossible.
 
Recently I found a good romantic connection with a man who is more than just a boyfriend... he’s truly my bodyguard, my strongest advocate, and my very best friend. 

Finally!  What the hell took so long?!



Everything hasn’t been perfect, but we’ve kept faith with each other and weeded out any influences that have tried to keep us apart.  


When the right kind of person who brings sanity rather then chaos comes into your life it helps you take a look at what all of the other people who were in your life before were bringing to you with wiser eyes.   Those drama-heavy, tormented and emotionally draining relationships seem phony compared to the beauty of a good and supportive relationship.  All of the pain and fear seems silly, probably because it really is silly.

Falling in love with a man who provides the right support has helped me make the short list of friends even shorter.  It's also got me hoping that other people start to do the same. 

There is no reason to let just anyone into your life.  Be selective! If you find people in your circle who have an investment in hurting you or making you feel badly about yourself with guilt or with negativity, remove that energy from the position of importance in your life.  There is too much good that you are meant to do to wallow in misery with people who can’t support the good that's waiting for us all.

 
Protect your potential for greatness by surrounding yourself with the right kind of support. Tell the negative peeps:

“The list is short baby, it’s constantly being revised and YOU no longer make the cut!”

 
You may find yourself without as many friends, but the ones that remain are all you need.

My supportive love lifts me up when I’m questioning myself.  He is gentle with my heart and conscious of communicating in spirit with me.  Everyday he tells me to trust myself and to know that no matter what, he’s got my back.  He walks that promise out in his actions towards me and I walk that out in mine towards him.

That old cliché “when its right, its right” is soooo very right.  

Find that soft place to land in the people who give you good support. Give the right support in return to the people you choose to invest in.

Sit back and just notice how damn good and freeing the right support feels.

With much love...

- Katie Rost

 

33 comments

  • food for thought.. i like it
  • i truly love this post and i will use some of the things stated and quoted in this blog i think i can relate to this post in so many ways and learn from this being a beautiful young woman i feel where katie is coming from love is idetified within the heart not by race or apperance so all these negative comments shows how ignorant you are.
    • @Beautiful >>>>

      Hmm...I think that comment at the end was directed at me, X, Y and Z. Well now, lets see...this must be some sort of 'black p*ssy lovefest': nothing a black woman could ever do is wrong, is that it?

      -So because I will not support Halie Berry, Claudia Jordan or any of 'those types' I'm now...'ignorant' you say? Halie Berry ONLY got that Oscar cause a black man was the one 'getting screwed', Hallie too, but that's a given so, in that instance, it doesn't count! It's kill the man, take the woman!

      -I really hate the internet, I wish we were face to face and you'd call me....ignorant, then you'd reach into your purse for your mace, 'full' in your sense of false security and then you'd really see how a ni_gga can move!
      F_U_C_K, Chris Brown was WRONG, he had NOTHING to be sorry for, IF someone is stepping out of line.......

      -You've read Alice Walker, gone to all of those "empower black women" seminars and now you've EARNED the right to talk to black men like sh*t, not to mention that you've also validation of your femininity by having a white man in your bed! Well good for you b*tch! That white man still ain't gonna prevent you from that Breast Cancer, now can he?

      -Oh, and let's talk about your queen, i.e., Oprah. She has you on a treadmill now doesn't she? Sure she does! She puts YOU in motion! She'll do anything and everything to sell her magazine and television show, even if it means putting YOU, her sister or daughter on that Hamster's treadmill! You don't even see the BS, YOU'RE the ignorant ones!! You're too busy being mad at me!
      So now, I wanna see 'me' get with Katie, well you know what, you don't like it, go wash your pu_ssy b*tch! Leave me alone! Do you really think White Boys support Kim Kardashian, or Heidi Klume? Fu_ck NO!!

      cont >>>
    • Cont >>>

      --Let ME find out that Katie is giving up the punny to some devil and you know what? I'll forget 'bout her like I did when I found out that Claudia Jordan get's down like that!! I canceled my satellite subscription and stopped listening to her show, her AND Jamie Foxx!!

      -I am NOT a lone voice, contrary to what YOU believe NOT all black men neglected higher education in technical fields, K? This downturn in the economy hasn't effected all of us in a bad way! We may not have been able to jump on private jets and jett'ed the likes of a Katie to St. Barts - as Russell did, but I should think first class for weeks to any resort should suffice.

    • apparently you are ignorant if you have enough time in the day to sit and criticize another human being theres so much more you can be doing instead of putting down a sista
  • and Rceppos, you always make awesome points... loves it girrrrrl
  • X, Y, and Z... altruistic Katie forgives you faux pas... Lets be friends again. I'm sorry i never responded to your comments before. I'll assume they were lovely however and I thank you for the support.... im off to the Superdome in New Orleans to watch Beyonce hype up all of the sisters in town for Essence Music Fest... I'll blog about it later!
  • Congratulations on finding happiness, Katie. Women so often get stuck being the support structure in the relationship, constantly acting as the adhesive that keeps everything in the partnership together. It's so refreshing and wonderful when you realize that the man you're with has got your back as much as you have his.
    I just expunged from my life a friend who was really contributing zero to our friendship. She had nothing in the plus column...NOTHING! It was so cathartic and liberating to just end it. Life is so much better without her negative energy and constant put downs.
    Enjoy!
    Oh, and XYZ this photo doesn't even kind of look like Katie. What sort of fan are you?
    • @rceppos >>>



      I'm THE lost black sheep alone in the woods, I hear wolves howling, no doubt they've caught my scent/trail; I'm that lost soul calling out to Katie from the wilderness: "reinstate me Katie, reinstate me Katie"



      Oh, that's not my mail, we're a group that made it our duty to battle/rep, though in cyberspace for Chris Brown, hence the teamail!

  • Dude! What a wack comment. I'm VERY disappointed in you X, Y, and Z. VERY Uncool...
    The pic isn't of me and my man, its just a pic of people kissing from Flickr to go with the post.
    But, I release you from fan status, chump... I certainly don't need support from someone like you...
    • Katie,



      I was just changing browsers and refreshed and noticed you'd replied, this was the FIRST time you replied to my many postings/requests/questions!!



      -Why did it take my ANGRY posting for you to reply? I've sent several postings/emails to you! I've invited you to Port Antonio, Jamaica for a week's worth of rafting, I know it's not Russell's private jet to St. Barts, but isn't Air Jamaica's first class good enough? And NO Katie, there'd have been NO strings attached NOR ANY pressure for ANYTHING but YOUR COMPANY: I love your spirit and FIRE!!

      -God I so envy you and your man, may god burn me to hell if I don't!!

      -But now that I've been banished to "wackdoom" and the "netherrealm" of the "uncool" I can only voice my disappointment! My 'offers' will be discarded by you, not only due to my recent said dispatch, but for the fact that you're in love!



      -I've endured so much, holding out hope that I could find a woman like you; your beauty, intelect, charm and fire brings me in, I have no shame in admitting as much!



      -This recent downturn in the economy hasn't had the same effect on everyone, there are some of us who saw it coming and made the proper preperations! And the same can be said of the coming inflation storm, but that is neither here nor there!



      -Katie, I must relent and appoligize IF you have a brother!!! I have endured too much not to hold out hope that I can keep company with a woman like yourself!!



      -This posting is really from the heart, I'd like it if you read it and deleted, it, I'd not want 'any of me' left as this is soooo real to me!



      X, Y,and Z!!



    • P.S. - Katie, was 'speaking on' the boob job too much? Yes, as I've said, I've gotten boobs for X's, but they were X's so much more than...acquaintances; Was this why you didn't reply to my email's or posts? Was the proposal really...indecent? If I offended you, I apologize!! From the reading of "Size Matters" I feel that Jamaican men might seem to you as....crass! Again, please don't take offense to the....'boob thing', K?
    • God,



      -Julie,



      -Did you call me a "chump" LOl, LOl, Lol OMG >>> I LOVE YOU!! I didn't really notice, this is an new browser and the type rendering is slow, so I can't type as fast as I usually do, but Julie, "CHUMP", I love it!!



      -You're so cute, and no, I'm no glutton for punishiment nor tongue lashings, but you ARE PURE FIRE Katie Roast!!



      -I beseech your on bended knees, may I have my "fan status" reinstated???

      Katie, can you please delete the previous posting? It's really, really personal and I did speak from the bottom of my heart!!
  • Gee Katie,



    I was holding out hope that you'd go for a black man, but as the picture shows, you didn't that's sad, now I'll not support you in ANYTHING you do, I only 'rep' for those who support me and 'my agenda'!!



    You'd caught my eye after you set that Julie person straight, but wow, to see this. But it's a growing trend, now isn't it?



    -In any case, your ONCE fan/support/blog follower

    Me

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