Luda, I think that I have a sorta funny story.Here goes.... I was dating this guy and I must admit he was cool and all. We dated for awhile and he asked me to move in with him.me being young and dumb, not knowing any better did so. I had to go out of town to a family function. He knew that I wouldn't be staying home that night. I had a funny feeling about things after speaking him on the phone.So i got in my car and went over to his house. When I walked in all the lights were off. I went to the bedroom to check if he was in there. I noticed the underwear that I bought so I really didnt pay it any mind. I went to get something to drink when the thought occured for me to go back. I went back opened the door flipped the light switch.To my surprise he was in the bed with another young lady who woke up when she heard me calling his name. To my surprise again, the ypung lady knew my name and who I was.I told not to move to stay right where she was he jumped up trying to grab me to explain himself. He told her to put on her clothes and get the hell out. I grabbed what I could of mines and left out of the apartment he was chasing me in Timbos and striped bikini briefs. I must admit it was funny as hell because it was 40 degrees in Chicago at the time.

Im starting to wonder if its true, i thought it wasnt. Me & my boyfriend ended up back together after he cheated. But now i cant trust him at all and i feel like hes always talking to some girl. I have cheated once & the past and its the biggest mistake of my life and i refuse to ever do it again..so in that sense no not always a cheater. But im not to sure about men at this point in time.

@ SINCERE MAYOR



i love all your comments!!

Mr. Luda, with topics like this one, you will never hear/read, the end of it.... Topics like this, will only show you one thing; and thats how much women are hurting!!!! Keep up the good work sir!

Always cheater LUDA!! Man I am just going through the situation now.. Webiste - blackplanet.com.. Damn internet is off the chain.. but anyhow.. I always say if you going cheat let it be someone cute and better than me... My opponent was a welfare chic that didnt have her life together.. He put up his family for her.. I just dont get it.. Everything that looks good aint always good.

All this just makes me wonder if there are any good strong men left i mean if you want reality if what a relationship is just watch Maury cause that is all you ever hear about these days! The last guy I was with was living a double life behind my back...doin his baby mama since she was okay with him being with other girls and her (she told me and I quote "I've accepted you in his life so you should except me" "I know he has sex with you and if ya'll want to do that its fine but all this lovey dovey sh*t has to go the only person he is ever gonna love is me") YEA WOW right? And man i just wish he was as committed to me as he was his lying cause he never strayed from his version of the truth...not even after me catching her and her girlfriend walk out of his apartment in his tshirt at 9AM or all those pictures of them having a good time going out (in what i now know to be a swingers club) on myspace or that faithfull phone call she made to me that day. So I decided to throw him the DUCES and to have a good life with a woman that is as ugly on the inside as she is on the outside and that everything was HIS FAULT because he was too weak of a man to handle a strong woman..he should have gotten the Maury lie detector test! And women it is us too! Otherwise why would Maury have to do so many DNA tests? Come on ladies you know what I'm talkin about! We do the same thing we are just sneakier and dont get caught as much! But Ill tell you from my experience a man finding his woman cheating on him for the first time its like a pitbull gettin its spirit broken. Its like he never gets the will to be a good man again. Maybe Im wrong but like I said I can only draw from my life. So in conclusion..I'm gonna need everybody to start getting control of their lives and start taking responsibility for their own actions! Self Awareness is a wonderful thing!

oh and luda after the divorce how about me and you go out for a drink? hit me up babe

once i walked in on my man of 36 good years, herman jones. to find that the old coot was having sex with our daughter, our son and my mum!!! im divorcing him and no longer have anything to do with my daughter or son. and i slapped my mother.

I found out my man was cheating, from one of the women he was cheating with. Its funny, but I called his cell phone and a female answered i thought maybe i had the wrong number,but no, i called it again. At that same time the jackass was at the door, i went to the door asked him where was his phone, he started saying something about his sister gave the phone back to her friend, i said yeah right, and closed the door, when i returned to my phone, i saw that the girl had called back, she told me a lot, and also told me about the other woman, and this fool was still trying to lie, plus he moved in with one of the girls he was cheating with.. I spent 6 1/2 years for what with that bastard...but you live and learn. He still trying to get in where he fit in, but its not working....i still get his money...he can do what he wants, we not having sex anymore.....so i hope he remembers what goes around comes around two times.

How I found out my ex-boyfriend was cheating on me..... was by my friend. She saw my now ex buying this other woman clothes at the mall.

I had asked him to take me to run my errand! I played it cool through dinner. I asked him and He denied it all.

At that point I let it go, making him believe I was fine.

I plotted a slow but great revenge. REVENGE IS A DISH BEST SERVED COLD! I met another guy. I didn't bother to tell him. I met "Hot Puerto Rican Papi" fine with swagger. He made my boyfriend look whack! We went on a date that night and started dating. When my now ex-man bothered to come up for air from cheating he said he wanted to see me so I agreed. When he came and picked me up I was decked out. Men where screaming at me in the streets. I just told him "look this isn't working out I've met someone else and he doesn't want me seeing you anymore in fact I've got to go he's picking me up in a few". So he dropped me off and left. It was a wrap! My man was too good in every way, he did things to me I didn't even think my body was built for! 5 years later I'm crazy in love with the same Papi I met 5 years ago and he treats me in a way I can't put in words. We are getting married and every day is sweeter than the day before.



As for my ex-boyfriend he broke up with that other girl because he found out that she had herpes. He still calls me from time to time but I shut him down because if he thinks I would give up the man of my dreams for his cheating butt he is as stupid as his actions. I got with my man because I no longer wanted his weak ass! It feels good to hear a jerk crying over his mistakes! Yes he cried, do you see why I needed to get rid of him? Real talk...... I'm so happy now, I never dreamed that God would give me such a fine looking man with a good heart who's swagger matches mine!

I was at the mall on a monday buying some shoes. I stopped to get a bite to eat in the food court. As i was eating, I saw my boyfriend and his ex walking past hand in hand, but he didn't see me. So i texted him; I said, Hey what you doin? He replied and said he had to talk to me later, he was at a family reunion. So i said back, "Oh really? Cuz that Orange polo ur wearing looks nice on you, But that black skirt doesn't look so good on ur b*tch." He was speechless.

He got the other girl who was supposedly a boys "girl" pregnant! 9 months & a dna test later..IM SINGLE!

I had the dream and even got a clear picture of what the hoe look like lol.I told him and he lied. Then some thing said check his phone and I look at it, a pic mes. Same girl in my dreams no lie real talk. The dude is gone.

I told him that i was going to the clinic for a check up and then it all came out..I already knew he was cheating but he'd lie when i asked. It just shows that in a lot of cases, men will lie to the END...all the way down to the WIRE...When they're all the way backed up, the the truth comes out....Laughable..In a sad way :(

LADIESSSSSSSSSSS always remember that ((Peace of Mind is better than money + jewelry put together)) OKAYyy & if you really love him, and feel like you can't leave him, then you obviously haven't hit your limit yet..