For women, skinny is winning.
Ladies, before you get upset, please allow me to explain. If you're black, men want you fat, and if you're white, men want you thin. But I just can't take it anymore.
This morning while scanning the internet, I stumbled onto MediaTakeOut.
Their main headline showed my Instagram crush, model Jasmine Sanders, alongside a headline containing something to the effect of 'Jasmine looking extra skinny.'
To me she looked like the average model, but if that's skinny, then I'd say she's winning. A scroll down further on the MTO site, and they show soul model, aka video vixen Bria Myles, again saying she looked skinny.
Scroll down a little more and they show Ciara, again saying she looks extra skinny.
I damn near pulled my hair out because all of these women looked perfectly healthy and comfortable in their own skin.
You see, in the hip-hop world, they like their woman soft, pudgy, portly and with more curves than the road to Sao Paolo from Rio De Janeiro. They would much rather their women scarf down two Big Macs than a leafy salad.
Take Maliah Michel for instance, the world's most famous stripper who gets showered with racks on racks on racks of hundred dollar bills, all to shake her 200-pound body for the men in the strip club.
It's the complete opposite in the chalky white world of Hollywood. The beautiful Jennifer Lawrence said she's considered fat in the eyes of Hollywood.
Luckily for guys like me, she won't be playing any hunger games in real life. She's totally comfortable in her own skin and won't partake in any extreme diets to fit in.
That might not be the case for numerous young white girls who feel like they have to be Ally McBeal thin to be pretty. Same goes for young black girls who put up with a muffin top to have a big booty. Because with a nice butt, a few love handles mean nothing.
In 2002, a plus size model wore a 12. Today, plus size models starts at a size 6. We need to kill the idea that a size six is considered plus size. Especially when you consider that over 50 percent of women in America are a 14 or larger. At this rate, 10 years from now a plus size model will be a size 3, and Precious will be the ideal eye candy for black men everywhere.
Regardless of what side of town you're from, there are ridiculous expectations on women. There needs to be a happy medium for what is considered sexy. A place where a woman's butt doesn't have to look like Nicki Minaj's and a woman's boobs don't have to jiggle like Kate Upton's when she does the cat daddy in a bikini.
There needs to be more emphasis on brains, drive, ambition and health, then these ungodly proportions of a woman's body. It's one thing to be sexy, but in my world, Michelle Obama is just as sexy as Miranda Kerr.
We need to bring the standard of beauty down to a more common level.
Xilla is the Sr. Entertainment Editor for GlobalGrind.com as well as CEO of the number 1 relationship blog BlogXilla.com/M2TB.com. He has been featured in XXL, The Source, Essence, LA Times and is considered one of the premiere bloggers in the industry. Follow him on twitter @BlogXilla