In the eyes of love, the image of the black man has been taking a beating. Men aren't fairing well when it comes to relationships these days.
Ochocinco was accused of domestic violence, Rupert Sanders cheated on his wife with Kristen Stewart, Kris Humphries appears to be holding onto a failed love, people think Chris Brown is playing two women, one of whom he got into a physical altercation with, and the list goes on.
With that said, I would like to declare a state of emergency for all men who are in love and want to be in love. We're taking a beating! When one man messes up, it's a knock on all of us.
It's time for an intervention. It's time for our brothers to pull us to the side and tell us not to fall into temptation. Just because a woman has a big butt and a smile does not mean a man should have his way with her, especially if he is married, or involved with a woman he claims to love. Having multiple women is no longer a good look. While it might be fun for a guy to have a girl and a girlfriend, that too must stop. Just because a woman is OK with being a side chick, does not mean he should let her be the side chick. We must take a stand.
Aristotle once said:
"It is naturally with the male and the female; the one is superior, the other inferior; the one governs, the other is governed; and the same rule must necessarily hold good with respect to all mankind."
It is this kind of thinking that makes women believe they must put on the tight outfits and short skirts so they can find a man to govern them. Find a man to protect and provide for them. While a man should protect and provide for his woman, it should not be at the expense of the woman's self worth. She should and must learn how to protect herself as well. When a man does the unthinkable and puts his hands on a woman, there is some kind of an unwritten law that claims a woman must have done something to provoke a man, but NOTHING gives the man a right to lay his hands on a woman.
Again, there is a state of emergency for men. We need to learn to be men, we need to change our ways and we all need, men and women alike, to teach one another how to be kings and queens. Until we do, the emergency continues.
Xilla is the Sr. Entertainment Editor for GlobalGrind.com as well as CEO of the number 1 relationship blog BlogXilla.com/M2TB.com. He has been featured in XXL, The Source, Essence, LA Times and is considered one of the premiere bloggers in the industry. Follow him on twitter @BlogXilla