Just can’t seem to quite get there? Or would you like your big moment to be even bigger? We’ve got the dish from sex experts on how you can have your best orgasm yet.
“Trying to accomplish complicated acrobatics distracts you from the sex itself, putting your focus on how you can contort yourself, rather than on just experiencing the sensations,” explains sex educator Dorian Solot.
Don’t be mad that you didn’t get there, just try these positions out:
Missionary With A Twist
“While on your back, put a pillow under your butt, lift your hips, and bring your legs up and back toward your shoulders, as though you’re folding in half.” This move allows him better ease of thrusting and deeper penetration — a perk for both of you. Plus, it can stimulate your G-spot. But consider this a warm-up. Once your G-spot feels sufficiently stroked, put your legs down and have him get into coital-alignment-technique (CAT) position. “He’s on top, but he lifts his pelvic bone upward, aligning it with your clitoris,” says sex therapist Gloria Brame, PhD. “Then he rocks against the area until you peak. The legs-up position is a slow burn that brings you to the brink and increases sensitivity. Then the addition of clitoral rubbing takes you over the edge in a bigger way than if you had done CAT alone.”
Take Doggie-Style To The Next Level
“Lie on your stomach, lifting your butt slightly so he can enter you,” suggests Solot. “Your partner can prop himself up with his hands in a push-up position or lie on top of you.” Not only does this facedown configuration provide increased friction as he moves in and out, but you can gently grind your clitoral area against the bed as well.
Ladies, Take Charge
Girl-on-top tends to be a go-to for achieving orgasm…and for good reason! “It allows you to dictate the pace and depth of thrusting, but mainly, you have easy access to your clitoris,” says Berman. “You can touch your C-spot, have him touch it, or rub against his pubic bone to achieve orgasm.” But you can up the ante by literally pulling a 180. Twist around so you’re pointed toward his feet in reverse cowgirl position. “Instead of straddling him, put your legs together, feet flat between his legs,” suggests Brame. The benefits of this are twofold: With your legs together, the fit is even tighter, making the sensations more intense. Plus, there’s increased G-spot stimulation, which combined with your own clitoral strokes, makes for an explosive orgasm.
Have A Seat
This one’s always a fan favorite — he sits and you straddle him so you’re face-to-face. “You have a lot of control over the speed, angle, and motion because you can use your arms and legs to help you maneuver,” says Berman. “Rather than just moving up and down, which can be especially tiring for you, sway forward and back, rubbing your clitoral area against him.” In addition to the freedom of movement, there are a few other benefits to this booty move. “If you lean back just a little bit, you’ll get greater G-spot stimulation and he’ll be able to play with your clitoris.”
Once you’ve mastered your body, sex will become easier and more passionate. Having an orgasm is a major factor in sex and it should be accomplished every time. Don’t be afraid to explore and be free.
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(Tips courtesy of Cosmopolitan)
