Hey Global Grind Readers. I hope you enjoy this piece that I wrote surrounding Black on Black hate in our community. This piece took me over a month to write because I didn’t want to offend anyone that I’m sure two to four edits ago I probably would have. I’m a huge fan of our First Lady, Alek Wek, Oprah Winfrey and others that I didn’t mention, they are all beautiful strong black women. I realize that this topic is an issue in many other cultures, but I chose to speak on my own personal experience. Please note that the purpose of writing a blog piece is that it’s personal to the writer. This is merely MY perspective on things. It is not meant to be a lesson in history, I never professed to be a literary genius. However, I did okay in my Psych and English classes 🙂 I apologize in advance for those who don’t agree. Love rules.
P.S. I am so blessed to have the ability to articulate these words because due to my experience in Brazil it was thought and also a huge probability that I would not be able to. God is good.
I am a dark-skinned African American woman with features that reflect my ancestry. Debates regarding Light vs. Dark and other biases have plagued our race for years and continues to impact millions of Black women. The deeply rooted intra-racial contempt that lies beneath this inane ‘compliment’ is the reason I’ve chosen to spark dialogue surrounding the topic of self-hatred in our culture. It saturates every aspect of our lives, dominating the perspectives of our generation as a whole. We culturally are so influential, at times inadvertently, that we affect all with the words we utter and the images we portray. It lends to the theory of systemic racism. I’m authoring this piece because I’m miffed by this reality and would like to share my views on these subjects.
It is a fact that many African-Americans are often mixed with an array of other ethnicities (as am I), which allows for the spectrum of our features to be as distinctive and special as we are diverse. Why is it felt that the more diluted our traditionally African features become the more aesthetically acceptable we are considered? It was said in the 1960s and the sentiment seems to be forgotten, ‘Black is Beautiful.’ Wow, nearly 50 years later and is that now only meant for a specific shade? Nonetheless, I believe the beauty of our people and splendor of every individual is reflected in our varying features and hues.
Often dark-skinned women are considered mean, domineering and standoffish and it was these very labels that followed Michelle Obama during the campaign for her husband’s presidency and which she has had to work tirelessly to combat. I was appalled when I heard a Black woman refer to Michelle Obama as unattractive. The conversation turned into why President Obama picked her as his mate. No one in the witch-hunt made reference to the possibility that Michelle Obama was smart, funny, caring, a good person, highly accomplished or brilliant. Nor did they mention that she previously was President Obama’s supervisor. If she were fair skinned, petite with long straight or wavy hair, would the same opinions be linked to her? I seriously doubt it. It is believed that for the dark skinned, dreams are less obtainable.
In fact, I have read similar comments about myself that I am ‘dark, aggressive, bossy and bitchy.’ It has been stated that my husband should have been with a ‘younger, more beautiful’ woman. Astoundingly, the majority of the remarks come from African-American women and are mimicked by others. Sadly enough, I don’t know nor have I met 99% of those making these assertions. Funny, how we can judge another without having personally seen, interacted with or experienced a person’s character.
As I began to delve into further research on this topic, and the more I read, I concluded that many of our people
