by Shelly Flash
How often have you gone out with someone you are not attracted to or there is no click what so ever or you continued to interact with someone you know isn’t feeling you the same way you are feeling them?
Why do we do that?
You know good and damn well that nothing is going to come of any of the above and convincing yourself that anything could happen has not panned out in the past, right?
We have been blessed with a little voice called “intuition” so why don’t we listen to it?
Think about it for a second, how many times did you go against that voice in your head and you had pie on your face?
(Pause for Thought)
Yup Yup
So I ask another question, how long or when do we become comfortable or began to settle?
Over the past week I had 3 dates, one I was stood up without a call, the other I went because I was bored & the other guy resulted in the most disappointing sex of my life.
The guy that stood me up has been inconsistent, yet consistently showing me his character traits that erk the shit out of me…. Plus he is Mr. “I’m going through a divorce” *rolling my eyes* (And you know that’s a whole another blog in itself – smh)
Now Mr. “No conversation and I just wanted to past the time with”, is younger than me and is too moldable. He is really into me, very attentive and wants to be in my space but there is nothing I crave from him – no wanting.
And the 20sec man, should have been cut off a long time ago because we have been talking for almost 2 years and it’s going NO where – classic “he is just not that into you” or better yet “he is partially into you” LOL. He is the guy that doesn’t want to commit but always knows how to draw you in with an intimate call, some sort of professional support or the sharing of “what you think are” genuine feelings.
So, just in case you couldn’t think of a situation where you didn’t trust you inner voice – there is some of my pies in the face for ya
LOL
I don’t want to settle but those damn semi-lonely, longing feelings start coming out of no and I start looking for someone to fill the time or maybe validation that I am single by choice aka I still got it or a touch from the opposite sex.
When do we start to forget are past relationship mistakes, when do we go against the human traits we know will not provide us balance and when do we say let love be what it’s gonna be – isn’t it suppose to JUST feel good, just fit?
The sad part about this entry is that today is Vday and I’m considering a date with a dude I am not interested in & my girlfriend just called me quoting the Millionaire Matchmaker; talking about go get your free meal and all that attention because it feels so good –
SMH
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