THE EX FILES….

For the past four years I’ve been dealing with this one particular guy, let’s just call him ‘Mr. SM’.  In that time our relationship was on and off, and now it’s officially off!!! Let me tell you why from the beginning. We meet in Hawaii. I was hosting a party. He sent over bottles, then came over introduced himself and asked me for my number so he could take me out sometime. There was instant attraction. From that day on whenever possible we were together. Great phone convo and all of that.  I knew it couldn’t be serious because of his age (I am five years older than him), and our distance (after all San Diego is far from Florida. ‘Wink’!  ). So I told him to sow his oats, play the field, just get it out of his system (since he was a rookie at the time. “Wink”!). We agreed no one would have our hearts till we were ready to settle down, because we were in it for each other (or so I thought). Throughout the four years we tried to settle down with each other, but our paths weren’t meeting up (those were the off times)! 

Now fast forward to December 31, 2008 11:30pm.  I get a call from guess who… Mr. SM (lol). He stated that he was ready to start a serious relationship and how much he loved me and that he was tired of dealing with all the chicken heads. He also said he knew my love for him was genuine and that he was ready for a real woman by his side. I believed it all. I believed it so much that I agreed to commit to the relationship as well.

Everything started out perfect, but soon calls became less and he started to change every week. He was to up and down for my taste. So I brought it to his attention and this is what he said, ‘but we’re going to be together forever. Why do we have to speak every week?’ UMMMMM….? Soooo, does that make sense? Aren’t long distance relationships based on phone calls and emails? You see my dilemma with him so far? That’s just one! I gave him the benefit of the doubt and we were still on! Now it’s February 14, 2009. To show him my love and appreciation I wanted to go all out my way for him (and those who know me know I do not!). So I went shopping for little things and bought two bags loads. Since we already had plans to see each other after Valentines Day. Now I’m waiting for my flowers, a card, a call , something, anything….nothing comes.  As night falls I decided to hit him up and I said do you know what today is???? He says, ‘Yes,  I didn’t send you anything ‘cause I know so many niggas have sent you flowers and I don’t want to be one of them suckers!”  Aren’t you my man???? Isn’t that already different? Doesn’t that set you apart from them other guys?? UMMMMMMMM….? That’s two!  So now we are off…