The other day I spoke with a 30-something, semi-committal female and she told me she has never received an orgasm. I was taken aback; intrigued, and I had “Damn” all over my face. And me being me, I began to ask question after question to seek clarification because I wasn’t sure how it was possible. Hell, it took all of me not to say “maybe you didn’t know when it happened?”
Interesting enough, according to the Medical Review Board, men don’t have orgasms every time they ejaculate… So ladies just because your mate releases, doesn’t mean you are really did your thing ;o) However, the young ladies confession has left me perplexed. How could this sexually active adult NEVER experience this particular sensation? How could she have never created one of on own? How can she be missing out on something so transcending.
I LOVE sex but does she?
Without inhibition, I can say I am able to have an orgasm without the presence of a man, assistance of adult toys or penetrating myself in anyway. I am not sure if this out of the norm but I feel that it is special… Because I know myself and I am able to take visualization to another place. Defined by Webster, an orgasm is the MOST intense pleasure during sexual intercourse. So what does it take for you to have an orgasm? Is it emotional? Is it pure physical? Sexual pleasure for me is not necessarily emotional but kinetic; more of an energetic force produced by the right motion.
Once I had sex with a man and he barely touched me but I felt electricity off of his body. His lips followed my entire silhouette without a kisses and I felt heat. He was well-endowed, which made me nervous but he understood himself and knew exactly what to do and I let him. He was gentle, filling & beyond satisfying… In addition, there was absolutely NO emotional connection or love involved – Just pure, inhibited pleasure.
Now let me take you somewhere else.
An orgasm has color, it has shape, and it takes your body from a solid state to a sensation of pure liquid. A memory you can smell, makes your mouth salivate and you can conjure with the upmost clarity. We have the ability to create pleasure because even when you don’t get what we want, we always know what you want…. Articulation with your partner is not necessary for self-gratification, just an open thought process and a benchmark or a collection of benchmarks.
You say you’re not into fantasy, fantasy is unrestricted by reality; and because this stems from your reality – it is more like a subjective-releam because you create the standard of your pleasure. Allow your body to let go and your egocentrism to be the pulse. Drift into an uninhibited sensory place and enjoy the collective pleasures of you.
So I say, listen & understand your self and an orgasm will follow.
Signed –
Adventures of a Single Black Female
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