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According to the free dictionary, a friend is defined “as a person known well to another and regarded with liking, affection, and loyalty”.  But what happens when this definition is tested? Does that friend then become a friend that betrayed me? Or that’s when you find out that person was not a friend at all? As I wrote this blog I begin to do a self evaluation and ask, “Am I someone’s friend?”

I have to admit, there has been several people in my life that I’ve grown to love and invite in my life as a friend, but when my road got a little rocky, so did my relationship with them. I think we use that word “friend” too damn freely and often set ourselves up for heartbreak. It’s a real good feeling when things are going well and you have someone you can share some of your stories of life with. But as soon as you piss that friend off, there it goes—everything that you guys once shared are totally forgotten and they expose every secret you ever told them. This is some real bullshit, but life!

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I remember being in NY just hanging around in flip flops and a cute little dress. So my girlfriend called and asked me to go to a major party so she could check this guy out she was feeling at the time. I explained to her that I wasn’t prepared and I didn’t have enough clothes with me. I was not about to go to Rahway, NJ from Manhattan to get some damn shoes (lol). Anyway, she was like “don’t worry about it, I got you”. I was like “ok, cool “, so I waited for her to pick me up. When she got there my face was all beat and I was cute and looking forward to doing something I don’t do often, hanging out, especially this bullshit industry functions. Now, my friend came in all hot and fresh to death with these fly ass boots on, so I’m so excited to see what she pulled for her girl from her closet for the night. Y’all when she pulled out these old lady ass shoes and boots that looked like she was just about to take them to the Salvation Army, I almost threw up! I said “are you serious?” From that night on that told me a lot about that person’s character and who she really was. Not only that, but it showed me what she thought of me. She wanted to be the one that shined all night and assumed that I was the type that would just settle for anything. Well, long story short, I really never messed with her like that again because I really put expectations on her that I shouldn’thave.

One thing I realize is that we have to use people how they want to be used! Some people you can confide in, but can’t club with because they’re boring. Then there are people who you can have a business relationship, but not personal. I always leave it up to them. If by chance I don’t call you in a while, think about the last conversation that came out your mouth with my name on your tongue!

Love Always

Ms.Lelee

 

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