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We’re die-hard Jada Pinkett Smith fans – stans, if you will – and we’ll waste no time telling you why.

Jada is equally talented as she is gorgeous, and those gifts are only surpassed by her intelligence and commitment to loving her husband, raising her family, and giving her children everything they need to be independent, strong, autonomous, successful individuals.

For the greater good, Jada is one superstar who will speak her mind at any cost and for all of these reasons – and the fact that she hasn’t aged a bit in the last decade or so – we love her.

In fact, one of our favorite Jada Pinkett Smith topics is love. Jada hits home when it comes to discussing being in love, loving others the right way, and loving yourself to no end. Check out some of the best Jada Pinkett Smith love quotes below… and take heed!

1. Open marriage?

Let me first say this, there are far more important things to talk about in regards to what is happening in the world than whether I have an open marriage or not. I am addressing this issue because a very important subject has been born from discussions about my statement that may be worthy of addressing.

The statement I made in regard to, “Will can do whatever he wants,” has illuminated the need to discuss the relationship between trust and love and how they co-exist.

Do we believe loving someone means owning them? Do we believe that ownership is the reason someone should “behave”? Do we believe that all the expectations, conditions, and underlying threats of “you better act right or else” keep one honest and true? Do we believe that we can have meaningful relationships with people who have not defined nor live by the integrity of his or her higher self? What of unconditional love? Or does love look like, feel like, and operate as enslavement? Do we believe that the more control we put on someone the safer we are? What of TRUST and LOVE?

Should we be married to individuals who can not be responsible for themselves and their families within their freedom? Should we be in relationships with individuals who we can not entrust to their own values, integrity, and LOVE…for us???

Here is how I will change my statement…Will and I BOTH can do WHATEVER we want, because we TRUST each other to do so. This does NOT mean we have an open relationship…this means we have a GROWN one.

Siempre,

J

2. A letter to a friend:

We spoke last night. Here are my only words. Make sure you are not falling in love with the POTENTIAL of someone. We must know the difference between loving people for who they already are vs. loving the idea of what they COULD be. Make sure you are loving him for who he is today. His potential should be the icing…not the cake.

My humble thoughts.

J

3. The war on men through the degradation of woman.

How is man to recognize his full self, his full power through the eye’s of an incomplete woman? The woman who has been stripped of Goddess recognition and diminished to a big ass and full breast for physical comfort only. The woman who has been silenced so she may forget her spiritual essence because her words stir too much thought outside of the pleasure space. The woman who has been diminished to covering all that rots inside of her with weaves and red bottom shoes.

I am sure the men, who restructured our societies from cultures that honored woman, had no idea of the outcome. They had no idea that eventually, even men would render themselves empty and longing for meaning, depth and connection. There is a deep sadness when I witness a man that can’t recognize the emptiness he feels when he objectifies himself as a bank and truly believes he can buy love with things and status. It is painful to witness the betrayal when a woman takes him up on that offer. He doesn’t recognize that the create of a half woman has contributed to his repressed anger and frustration of feeling he is not enough. He then may love no woman or keep many half women as his prize. He doesn’t recognize that it’s his submersion in the imbalanced warrior culture, where violence is the means of getting respect and power, as the reason he can break the face of the woman who bore him four children.

When woman is lost, so is man. The truth is, woman is the window to a man’s heart and a man’s heart is the gateway to his soul.

Power and control will NEVER out weigh love.

May we all find our way.

J

4. When we make a claim to love someone, to be a friend or when we give our allegiance of any kind to someone, it is important that we learn to show up when we are needed. When we show up for those we say we love or have given our allegiance to, we are engaging in an act that develops strong bonds and relationships.

It’s not enough to say we love someone. It’s not enough to say we will be there or to say that we are committed to whatever relationship we may have with someone. It only becomes enough when we prove our words as true by showing up when it really counts.

Let’s show up when it really matters.

J

5. “Half lov’n just hurts.”

– Will Smith

When we say we love someone we should give all we’ve got, even if that means overcoming the parts of ourselves that keep us from the best parts of ourselves that deliver the promise of ecstatic love. Not only do we deserve to experience the best of who we are, but the people who we say we love deserve to experience the best of WHAT we are.

Happy Friday and Love… hard.

J

6. One of my primary missions in life is to understand the dynamics of love.

I have observed a big difference between really liking and caring for someone vs. loving them. I have observed people say, “I love you” when they actually may mean, “I like you”. An “I like you” relationship may only inspire a person to spend time and offer themselves to us in ways that are effortless, that don’t create discomfort nor require much psychic, emotional or physical effort.

People in these types of relationships often keep up emotional walls that prevent the emotional intimacy that is required for the making of…love. When love is involved, one is inspired to dissolve those walls and make space for the psychic, emotional and physical efforts needed to build the relationship; therefore, forging the capacity required for vulnerability, receptivity and emotional intimacy necessary for establishing fulfilling bonds of love. It’s great to be liked or loved, but it’s our responsibility to know the difference.

Simply…my humble thoughts.

J

7. What do I do with heartbreak?

In my experience, heartbreaks have been the most devastating moments in my life. But… each heartbreak delivered me into something new and better. The trick had always been to find what I needed to learn about myself or the circumstance that I had participated in creating that brought me so much pain. First…I had to learn to surrender to the pain and suffer through it instead of running right into another relationship where I would tend to fall right back into the same pattern of my previous heartbreak. It took a lot of maturity and courage to choose to suffer through the loss, but I realized that the quality of my relationships were not going to change if I was not going to be willing to… change. Yes… heartbreak is an indicator that we have to change something so we can love and be loved how we truly desire.

Heartbreak can be a gift if we are willing to do the work to find it.

If any of you are suffering heartbreak while reading this…I am hugging you. Give it time.

J

8. Is true love real?

I believe true love is very real. The question is, are we prepared to CREATE it? Most of us are conditioned to believe that true love HAPPENS to us…effortlessly. My experience has been that romantic love happens effortlessly. The meeting of the eyes that lights you afire inside can happen without our consent, which could be the ENTRY point to true love or to a grand love affair that prepares you for the true love waiting in the wings. Many of us have equated that intoxicating, romantic feeling to true love. But true love is not created only in the intoxicating romance. True love is mostly created in the troubles, storms, misunderstandings, and deceptions where love is no longer romantic but excruciating. Love is created in forgiveness and in the maturity of accepting the human nature of ourselves and our partner. If you can survive these stages through your fight and growth for love…then TRUE LOVE will reveal itself because it becomes the stuff that CREATES long lasting…true love.

Remember this… When we engage in the dance of love…we are all dancing blindly. We are ALL students of love, learning ON one another. Be patient with the inevitable pains our ignorance delivers.

My humble thoughts.

J

9. I flung our love through the moon

To coat the sun

To drown the sky

And called it midnight

I claimed the freshly darkness ours

Whether we’re in love with fantasy or not

Your impressions parade above my head

So my heart remembers

If my mind fails

I shoved our love deep below to keep us safe

To nurse our growth

And called us trees

I claimed the earth stalkers ours

Whether we are in love with fantasy or not

Your impressions stand before me

So my heart remembers

If my mind fails

I pressed our love inside a stone

To keep us hard

To keep us strong

And I called it a… monument

I claimed a place in eternity our own

So, whether were in love with fantasy or not

Your impressions overwhelm me

So my heart remembers

If my mind fails

I wrote this March 4th 1992. What a long time ago.

J

10. Advice to a friend…

Love is an invitation. Why would you try to force or coerce your way into someone’s heart? Be somewhere where you are wanted. That feels so much better. Let go…

J

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