While I am by no means a relationship expert, I need to speak on Slim Thug’s way of thinking…
Dear Mr. Thug…. Or Slim (if you will),
I am happy to see that your music career is breathing life again and I wish you much success however, your thoughts on relationship and women, need some re-evaluation.
“Most single Black women feel like they don’t want to settle for less. Their standards are too high right now. They have to understand that successful Black men are kind of extinct. We’re important”.
First and foremost, telling a black woman, or any woman for that matter, that she needs to lower her standards is just ridiculous. A woman has the right to choose what kind of man she WANTS to be with whether he is smart, dumb, rich, broke… It is her choice. If I have a Degree and a 6 figure job and want a man that has the same, you damn right I’m gonna pass you by if you don’t have it. Why?? because it’s my choice. Perhaps you meant to say that women have to take into account that sometimes you can’t get everything you may “want” in a man and sometimes a compromise within oneself is necessary for happiness. That doesn’t mean she should settle for whatever plops on her doorstep. If that’s what you meant, I can agree with that. But telling me that I need to settle in order to find a black man… you’re bugging.
Successful Black Men are NOT extinct. Everybody’s definition of success is different. Having a bunch of money doesn’t make you successful. For some people it does, but there’s more to it. Good men (on a whole) are extinct but for other reasons. Let’s talk about the “baby mama” situation, the cheating, the disrespect… And that is not only for Black men, that goes for ALL men.
“It’s hard to find us so Black women have to bow down and let it be known that they gotta start working hard; they gotta start cooking and being down for they man more..”
Now… This whole “Be down for your man more…” A relationship is a partnership between 2 people. If the responsibilities of keeping a house and what not cannot be shared, then perhaps you need to go back to the stone-age Mr. Flintstone. There are too many career women out here, Slim. I’ll be damned if I go to work and have to come home to wash dishes, cook dinner, wash dishes and pick up after some man while he watches the TV. The days of “Where’s My Dinner?” are over. How about I come home from work and dinner is cooked for me sometimes. Don’t get it twisted, I can have your breakfast, lunch and dinner cooked and served for you… but don’t expect it. What you’re looking for sounds more like a maid or a housekeeper. I’ll take care of my man so long as he appreciates it and does things in return. The problem with this right here and your above “settling” theory, is that women will get stuck with a man who does not appreciate what he has but expects it. Most women have no problem being “down” for their man but, shit… “What is he going to do for me?”
“I have a brother that dates a White woman and he always be fucking with me about it