‘He’s Just Not That Into You: The No-Excuses Truth to Understanding Guys’
I am definitely guilty! I read the book and I think I’m about to go see the movie as well. The book definitely made me think about the concept of a woman’s point of view when they’re in lo(ooo)ve. I mean: WTF ARE WE THINKING? The moment I found that book or let’s just call it “enlightenment”.
I was terribly heartbroken by a soccer player. I added his occupation because I think I’ll get an extra point of pity from all of you for that. It was a back and forth story. He just needed time and had to get over his ex wife. She ruined him financially and psychologically, cheated on him constantly and never called him back. In order to see him I drove all the way to France to go see him at a time I really didn’t have ANY time but he deserved everything. We had it all going on the first weeks writing each other thirty text messages a day and calling each other at least eleven times. “You hang up” – “no you hang up” *smile*.
Long story short – one day to the other he cut it down to one message and no phone call at all. So the first thing I did was thinking. I was thinking that he might be too busy or that I have to give him some more time to get over his terrible ex wife that actually was already pregnant from the latest affair she had. Or did I say something wrong? What did I do? No no(oo)… He’ll call. Maybe I should call him and see if he picks up? No caller ID… Day in – day out I was trying to figure how I could make him call me.
I am a very nice person and I believe my heart’s on the right spot so a logical explanation for that is: Call him! Show him that you care! Let him know you are in love (because you’ve already ruined the moment when you asked him “Baby, why didn’t you call??). BOOOM! Here I was… Heartbroken and miserable as it gets. After a few miserable days of being miserable my girlfriend suggested me the magic book. Reading it is comparable with rehab. You have a problem and this is the only way to get out of it: CONFRONTATION. Two years later… Ladies, here are MY rules:
IF YOU ARE IN A LONG DISTANCE RELATIONSHIP HE MUST VISIT YOU AT LEAST THREE TIMES BEFORE YOU VISIT HIM.
IT’S A FANTASY RELATIONSHIP UNLESS A MAN ASKS YOU OUT.
IF YOU GO ON A DATE HE HAS TO PICK YOU UP (NO EXCUSES)
IF HE DOES NOT CALL HE IS NOT THAT INTERESTED. PERIOD!
DON’T ADD HIM TO YOUR BB-MESSENGER TOO FAST. IT ONLY CAUSES DRAMA.
DON’T CALL HIM UNLESS HE CALLS YOU.
DON’T LET HIM END THE CONVERSATION – DO IT YOURSELF.
DON’T START THE “GOOD MORNING”, “ENJOY LUNCH”, “ENJOY DINNER” & “GOOD NIGHT” THING…
NEVER GIVE UP THE RULES (BECAUSE HE ISN’T “SPECIAL” – HE’S JUST A MAN)
DON’T TALK ABOUT KIDS, MARRIAGE OR ANYTHING ELSE THAT COULD SCARE HIM.
I am telling you – IT WORKS! Just give it a try and follow EVERY single rule to make him run after you like there’s no Angelina Jolie.
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By the end of the day we can’t live with them and we can’t live without them.
We love you.