by Shelly Flash
Let’s talk about sex… Do you remember the song from Salt n Pepper? Ok , cool.. While the sentiment was created to reflex empowerment, open dialogue about your partner and even a sense of liberation – I think we should add pigeon-hole to that list.
Think about it…
Have you ever had a conversation with a male and at times a female, and because you bring up a sexual encounter or you’re comfortable talking about sex – it becomes an on-going topic from that point on. You just can’t get away from it. I mean; I love sex, I can visualize it, I have some funny stories too but I do not want to become the other person’s phone sex operator and it doesn’t give you a pass to thinking “sex with me” is in your future.
It’s such a fine line when you discuss sex during the courting or dating period because you may want to gage their sexual depth, maturity level, or hell you may even be feeling a little kinky. But regardless of your motives, once you’ve opened that “let’s talk about sex” gate, you have changed the entire dynamics of the interaction.
Don’t get it twisted, even before you have a sexually charged conversation with a male, he already views you in a sexual way – however with that particular dialogue, you have given his mind the green light and it will be damn near impossible to take the interaction back to the basics.
I am wracking my brain as to when I was able to talk about sex and I didn’t become a sexual object verse someone who is comfortable with her sexuality. From sharing my fantasy-driven writings or talking to a girlfriend about a sexual episode, I somehow became some sort of sex pro or confessional.
So my question to the Global Grind family is, do you think it is possible to have sexual dialogue during the courting and/or dating period without skewing the perception of the other person or should we stay away from it all together (And I am not talking about sexual health talks)?
