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Stereotypes haunt us all. Whether it’s White men can’t jump, Asian people can’t drive, Black people love fried chicken, or all Puerto Ricans travel 20 people per car; we all have them.

But perhaps none of these stereotypes are worse than being labeled an angry black women.

This week, there have been a couple of situations that stick out to me that give black women a bad name: Lil Kim and Azealia Banks, for example. 

We all share the burden not to reinforce our stereotypes. So by no means do I believe all Black women are angry, but I am smart enough to understand how certain situations may appear from the outside looking in. 

Let’s take Kim’s latest blow up for example, when she took to Twitter bash Wendy Williams after the talk show host made some comments about Kim on her show. 

In the video, Wendy does what she does best: talk to her audience members like she’s their girlfriend with all the gossip, and when the topic of Kim popped up, Wendy spoke her piece: 

“I agree with Kim on this particular one…” later pointing out that Kim looked a lot better in a picture from the previous night. “I’m on Lil Kim’s side.”

Apparently, this pissed the Brooklyn rapper off. She took to Twitter and slammed Wendy Williams: 

Then there’s Ms. Banks, who lashed out at Rita Ora for trying to be her friend. Add these instances to the images that come from reality TV, and it’s really giving Black women a bad name.

Here’s my thing, as blacks we have to work harder than most, be more focused and more careful about the things we say and do. So yeah! I think Lil Kim could have addressed this in a much better way. In a way that showed much more class than, “You hating bitch.” She’s hating for being on Kim’s side?  

We have to stop and think about what our actions will portray to others. Women arguing on the bus, in the mall in front of their kids, so much aggression that can be channeled in a more productive way. 

This is even more so for an icon like Lil Kim, who serves as a representation of our culture to the mainstream world that doesn’t interact with Blacks on the daily.

So every time a brown woman throws a bottle at another person, it’s not thrown by a reality star. It’s thrown by the Black woman in accounting. 

We have a responsibility to handle things like civilized adults. Being an “Angry Black Woman” hurts, but ironically, those traits also make for the most successful business people. 

The Washington Post reports:

Black women leaders who displayed dominant behavior when interacting with subordinates got more favorable reviews than their white female or black male counterparts who behaved the same way. In fact, black women were evaluated comparably to white male leaders who displayed similarly dominant and assertive behavior.

So hey, it’s not all downhill!

When that energy is channeled and when a woman of any color sets her mind to it, she can accomplish anything – including busting down those stereotypes. 

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Xilla is the Sr. Entertainment Editor for GlobalGrind.com as well as CEO of the number 1 relationship blog BlogXilla.com/M2TB.com. He has been featured in XXL, The Source, Essence, LA Times and is considered one of the premiere bloggers in the industry. Follow him on twitter @BlogXilla