Americans are delusional. From the time we are children, we are fed fantasies about being saved by knights and princes and that we’ll live-happily-ever-after-with-one-person-only-the end! That’s if you’re a white girl.
If you’re a black or white boy, we’re taught not to cry and to act like a man.
But what if you weren’t born in America? What if you were an Austrian who immigrated and became a body- building movie star? What if you bring with you your former homeland’s notions about sex, dating and marriage? What then?
Well, if you’re Arnold Schwarzenegger, you grow up to be “Conan,” “The Terminator” and the Governor of California. You also grow up to be a sexist, pot smoking serial cheater, according to contemporary standards.
This week Schwarzenegger revealed to the world that his 25 year marriage to Maria Shriver was both on the rocks and shaken due to an indiscretion with a live-in home aide. A ten-year-old son was the result of that congress.
Blogs and gossip rags have been sinking their teeth into the former action star but not us. Why? Because it’s the 21st century and we’re no longer clinging to the idea that monogamy is inherent in human beings. Come on! It’s naïve to think that humans are like penguins and parrots. We’re not. We have desires and chemicals that fuel those desires.
Couple those with social constructions like fidelity and monogamy and what we’re really imposing are ethical choices on strangers, promises made, promises kept and promises broken. When we apply that illogical thinking to our politicians, well, that’s another story.
Indiscretions are nothing new. Everyone has them, even you if you’re boo-ed up. They occur in our mind or in our actions. In some cultures thoughts are synonymous with action, so you don’t even have to do anything and you’ve committed a crime. Since our government and the church became active in people’s lives, the idea of a mistress or a mister has been frowned upon as ungodly.
We say bring it back, lay it on the table, let people be themselves. Husband is wack, but you only want a taste and not a complete upgrade? Bring in a mister. He don’t have to respect you in the morning if all you want to do is get your bell rung. Life isn’t a fairy tale, so why are we fronting like marriages should end like one?
