As the Entertainment Editor here at GG & CEO of the sexual relationship bible BlogXilla.com – I have LITERALLY seen it all! But yet there’s always some type of relationship drama, that I witness which seems to be a bigger deal that a chick’s new pair of Louboutin’s.. This morning while looking at the pictures for the Sex and The City after party I noticed Chris Noth and Kristin Davis were a bit too close for comfort. In my mind I couldn’t get there characters out of my head. On the show Chris Noth dated Carrie, and Kristin Davis was best friends’ with Carrie, so why is she all hugged up on her man?
There is an unwritten rule that friends don’t date people who dated their friend. Yet, the more I thought about it, the more I realized that we should end this rule this very second. Why should be put boundaries on the people we date? Now before you get upset hear me out. By no means am I saying steal your best friend’s lover, but if you feel like this person is right for you, then make a move, if they are no longer with your friend. If you’re in this situation, or got mad when your friend started seeing your ex, or have been approached by lover of an ex, here are a few reasons you should date your friends ex boyfriend or girlfriend.
Did your friend’s ex always turn you on?
Just because they weren’t the right person for your friend doesn’t mean they are not the right person for you.
Evaluate your friend’s relationship with this person. If it was filled with complaints, nights wondering about the whereabouts of this person, and drama you might not want that for your love life. But, if it was filled with unappreciated gifts, gestures of love that went unnoticed and this person being taken for granted why let a good lover go to waste?
If they don’t want them who cares?
I feel like a lot of times people have problems with an ex dating their friend has nothing to do with the ex, but rather insecurity? Think about it, if you order a value meal, and you don’t want your French Fries, would you simply throw them away or ask your friend if they want your fries? Why is a relationship any different? If you don’t want the person anymore, why can’t your friend share in what you once found awesome? Don’t let another person’s insecurity ruin a potential chance at love.
Sometimes love just happens.
Now while some shady people may go on the hunt for a past lover of a friend, in healthy relationships, it just happens. When you’re in a relationship you tend to become friends with each other’s friends. Those friendships don’t end because two people stop dealing with each other, and we all know friends can fall in love rather easily.
At the end of the day, dating an ex of a friend will always be a touchy subject, think about it before you embark on dating someone who dated one of your friends. Speak to your friend about the situation. If your friend is an insecure person then you already know t