You never know when they’re watching.
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Over the last week, it was reported that a 5-year-old was giving oral sex to classmates, a 9-year-old allegedly gave birth to her stepfather’s baby, and a 12-year-old gave birth to twins.
At what point do parents decide to have “the talk” with their children? At what point do we realize our children aren’t safe from “sex” in this world? Is it when news breaks that a 9-year-old gave birth? Or maybe when a 5-year-old starts routinely giving oral sex in between nap time and lunch.
Believe me. Kids, even the youngest, are curious about sex.
As an older sister, I’ve had to give some of the most awkward speeches about the human body, relationships, and sex. I even had to give dozens of speeches to a neighbor’s daughter who thought show and tell involved an imaginary stripper pole and my brother’s privates.
If so, then the time is NOW. It is a rough topic to discuss with impressionable children, but silence is not a form of prevention. Children see and hear everything. It is our responsibility to inform them what is appropriate and what isn’t. It is also our responsibility to break the cycle of silencing one’s curiosity, underestimating a child’s perception, and sacrificing the safety of our young ones for love.
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In the case of 5-year-olds giving and receiving oral sex while at school; these are actions that have been witnessed or ignored. Of course poor supervision is to blame, but lessons don’t stop in the classroom. At that tender age, children cannot fully understand sex, but they can understand they should keep their hands and mouths to themselves.
The 9-year-old, Dafne from Mexico, is now a mother because allegedly her mother was so in love, she ignored the sexual and physical abuse Dafne faced at the hands of her stepfather. Love is hard to find and a good man is just as rare, but to sacrifice your daughter in the name of love is absurd. Her mother didn’t know that sex at that age was illegal. Dafne’s grandmother didn’t have the sex talk with her and now Dafne’s mother has extended the ignorance to Dafne. The cycle must end here.
We live in a different world now. Silence is not worth it. Your silence can be the result of an abusive cycle, an adolescent pregnancy, or the root of a predator’s sexual obsessions.
Talking to your youngsters about sex is as awkward as you make it. There are many ways you can break the ice, be heard, and have your words echo in a young girl or boy’s mind when an inappropriate opportunity arises.
For those of you who have older children, you can always rely on them to give a relatable, PG13, and informative talk to the youngsters in the family. If not, take my mother’s route: turn to science books or by simply ensuring your child that no matter the question, they will get an answer. Some of the things I’ve learned is just because the fear of asking never existed in my household.
You can even turn to the web. There are so many safe sex promoters and organizations that help spark the needed conversation. You may be surprised by how much your young one knows.
They say the objective is to keep girls off the pole, but what about boys off the sex offender list?
PHOTO CREDIT: EPIC PARENT
