In 2006, I entered a competition to live in a house with 13 other girls who attempted to win a modeling contract with one of the most prestigious modeling agencies in the world. In that duration of time, I watched a room full of young, beautiful, vibrant women rip each other apart in the midst of trying to win this competition (I too was guilty of this). We seldom encouraged or congratulated each other. Even when we spoke kind words to one another, it was never genuine. When the show was over, I vowed to never be that person again, regardless of the circumstances. I would never compete or hate someone else for who they are or for what they have.
Hate is a form of inadequacy. It is a disease that is infectious and unbecoming. To hate someone for their achievements, blessings and earnings is to say that you are uncomfortable and unsatitisfied with all that you have been given. Even the smallest of blessings should never be over looked everything in your life is a blessing.
Luxury, fame, and glamour have almost always saturated the media creating an evident division between those who have and those who cannot afford. There has always been a limited amount of space for minorities in this elite circle. People lucky enough to enter that circle, are usually critiqued, envied and shunned by many who could not make the list. Knowing that there are limited amount of slots that can be filled in this industry, we evaluate who should be there and why. It never crossed our minds that we should congratulate those who did it and represent those who wanted that spot to the best of their ability.
If society showed more generosity with how they viewed culture, class and gender, hate would decrease dramatically. The media has helped to cluster people into small barrels like crabs. Therefore, we never want anyone to succeed but ourselves. Knowing where hatred stems from allows you to be more forgiving towards those who express it.
Hatred is a form of weakness. When you hate or ‘form an opinion’ that isn’t constructive, you are underlining everything that disappointed you in your life. When you hate, you give people power and control over your logic and common sense which subsequently ruins productivity and decision making. Furthermore your time and energy is wasted and soon, your life becomes the same.
Someone once shared with me that every time a person speaks they are telling you their past experiences, limitations and fears. If this is true, then we should all listen closely to what we say because we can learn a lot about ourselves. The fact is, hatred can never be positive and it can never be the foundation used to build good. All hatred is capable of doing is destroying and killing dreams.
Love,
Bre
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