As I’m sitting here listening to 50 Cent’s “If I Can’t”, via his Get Rich Or Die Trying era, I thought to myself “Geez… if it wasn’t for this song, I would still be down in the dumps over my ex”.
Huh? What does a song with a line that says “Go head act up, get smacked in the head with the burner” have to do with heartbreak? I mean, I don’t necessarily want to “clap” my ex with the “strap”. I don’t resent him that much.
The truth is, I’ve never been the type to mope over an ex. Yes, I’ll have my moments, but I personally feel like I can only be sad for so long. Why feed into that depression by listening to sappy songs about how much you miss your ex boo. I love you Mariah Carey, but sometimes your ex isn’t always going to be your baby and maybe you two don’t belong together.
Instead, I rather listen to over the top rap music about how much money I’m going to spend shopping and how much champagne I will be consuming this weekend. As a recent college graduate like myself, I’m not going to have that “buying bottles of Ace of Spades” type money, but it’s motivating to hear songs about materialistic things to give you that push to work hard and make money to buy those things you hear about.
This is what a girlfriend and I call “grind music”. Also known as music that will inspire you to do just that… be on your grind. You know… basically doing you!
That is exactly what you should be doing when trying to get over an ex spouse! After being dumped at the worst time ever (two days before our 3 year anniversary, during the holidays, the week before my finals), it is easy to see how down in the dumps I was. After weeks of having “I’m Goin’ Down” by Mary J. Blige on repeat, I decided to put on “I Get Money” by 50 Cent. And low and behold my whole attitude slowly changed.
Instead of focusing my energy on being sad, I spent time focusing on something productive&hellip