Some said that people who fear to make mistakes hardly do anything with their lives. But failure to learn from one’s mistakes will lead one to commit the same mistake again. There’s got to be a balance somewhere. Mistakes, obviously, show us what needs improving. Without mistakes, how would we know what we had to work on?
There is a certain degree of satisfaction in having the courage to admit one’s errors. It not only clears up the air of guilt and defensiveness, but often helps solve the problem created by the error.
I have found that being honest is the best technique I can use. Right up front, tell people what you’re trying to accomplish and what you’re willing to sacrifice to accomplish it.
When you plant lettuce, if it does not grow well, you don’t blame the lettuce. You look for reasons it is not doing well. It may need fertilizer, or more water, or less sun. You never blame the lettuce. Yet if we have problems with our friends or family, we blame the other person. But if we know how to take care of them, they will grow well, like the lettuce. Blaming has no positive effect at all, nor does trying to persuade using reason and arguments. That is my experience. No blame, no reasoning, no argument, just understanding.
Being vulnerable doesn’t have to be threatening. Just have the courage to be sincere, open and honest. This opens the door to deeper communication all around. It creates self-empowerment and the kind of connections with others we all want in life. Speaking from the heart frees us from the secrets that burden us. These secrets are what make us sick or fearful. Speaking truth helps you get clarity on your real heart directives.The greatest weakness of most humans is their hesitancy to tell others how much they love them while they’re alive. So please do yourself a favor and do your best to tell the person who you care for how you feel because even if we think they know, they don’t. How would you feel when that person opened their heart to you without expecting to be loved back and yet deep in your heart, you know that you love them then in a blink of an eye that special someone dies without knowing that you love them? Wouldn’t it hurt? We tend to forget that happiness doesn’t come as a result of getting something we don’t have, but rather of recognizing and appreciating what we do have. So don’t let your ego or pessimistic preconceived notion get in the way. All are creative unique for a reason. If the person that did you wrong brings hesitation and timidity to show the person you care for how much he/she means to you, Anything may be betrayed, anyone may be forgiven, but not those who lack the courage of their own greatness.
Each time you are honest and conduct yourself with honesty, a success force will drive you toward greater success. Each time you lie, even with a little white lie, there are strong forces pushing you toward failure.
So wherever you go, and whoever you are with, ultimately given time, your character will shine through as it’s the foundation of who you are. Hopefully you can see that you’re a beautiful woman/man with character!
‘Constant kindness can accomplish much. As the sun makes ice melt, kindness causes misunderstanding, mistrust, and hostility to evaporate’– Albert Schweitzer
Beginning today, treat everyone you meet as if they were going to be dead by midnight. Extend to them all the care, kindness and understanding you can muster, and do it with no thought of any reward. Your life will never be the same again.
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